u/Slight_Force_2723

Thinking its time to setup a new, not-strictly-for-profit, Sugar Relastions site. A couple of base ground rules:

1. No scamming clients with false online status

2. No money generating scams like secret photos, secret videos, secret questions, etc. which are typically normal photos anyway.

3. Persons "last activity" time (message read, message posted, profile looked at, etc.)

4. Lots of filters

etc.

I can probably make this happen as one of my retirement projects.

Two Questions:

A) Good idea?

B) Conversation here or in a new subforum?

Had a Pot I’ve been swapping messages with for a day or so. Took the advice of the forum and arranged a M&G for tonight. We continued to text until 5pm, while I drove 3.5 hours to her town and rented a room to stay in. We were about to set a time to meet when she went quiet. Ok, she said she worked until 7pm, maybe it got busy. 7:30, no replies, 8 I drive to Outback we were going to meet at just in case she was waiting there. All calls rolled to voicemail. Waited until the placed closed at 9:30. No text, no calls… do believe I have been ghosted and have no idea why.

In what world is this an ok thing to do to someone???

So have a new POT. 22F and stated first time in bowl, just needed cash. Cool. Lots of texting prior to the M&G, which went well. She explained about just getting out of a very bad relationship and needing some time before intimacy.

In vanilla, I would translate that to perhaps 4-8 weeks, with 1st through 3rd filling the time.

Does it mean anything different in a SR?

New at this…. Say I am paying for an afternoon couples massage and we get together for our usual evening? Does that count as two separate PPM payments? Or we go out for a fancy dinner then reconnect later that night?

E.g. one event that could have rolled into just a long meet, vs. her breaking it two with her wanting to go home to change and clean up making it two PPMs?

Is there a standard for this? Just honestly asking.

I am close to entering into a SR, but she is 1800 miles away. We have met several times and get along well. Still learning about each other though.

I manage to get to her town every month or two, and stay for at least a week.

We swap text daily, mostly around life events and planning for our next meet.

Currently functionally doing PPM but going to ask her if she would prefer an allowance at our next meet.

Curious if I should be sending her cash as compensation for the time she spends texting me?

Just had my first STI panel come back in preparation for a meet.

Given that 2/3rds of the adult population has the Oral Herpes virus, I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised. I’ve never had a cold sore, but know my wife has it.

I am guessing this counts when we have the STI/STD conversation?

I have been lurking on SDM and nobody there brings it up. Every girl I look at claims she has a clean panel???

Just curious if this happens often? I am defining a Mistress as an SB with a serious, long term, emotional attachment that is exclusive rather than just purely a transactional relationship?

Have a stripper “friend” who overnights with me (for a OTC fee, plus tip) frequently when I am in their town. No sex, just cuddling, nice conversation, and the occasional joint vaping high.

After lurking here for a while, that seems like a pretty common PPM fee. But to a stripper, that is just a one hour dance income level.

Given I am in town 4-6 times a year, and the OTC is often preceded by a similar spend ITC, wondering if I should just approach her to be my SB when I am there for an allowance? Overall spend would be similar to what I am dropping in Strip Clubs now.

Strippers entertain for a fee, and in many ways are just actors. They can make you feel like the center of their universe, and do so for as many men as they can. The facade is something I am becoming less pleased with over time. Are SBs any different? Eg as part of the arrangement be that they tell you the truth?

Just starting to consider this arrangement, I’ve never been a SD before (excluding my two marriages). Appreciate all feedback, good and bad.