I need to vent a little about Daddy's behavior today.
My Daddy is a good man and for the most part treats me very well BUT his need for sex is always the priority.
We have a free-use at home arrangement and I'm usually happy to oblige. Our wake up routine involves me stroking him and then I give him a bj. We usually have sex again later later in the day. He always gives me tons of physical attention and orgasms.
Here's the rub though, today I am sick with a brutal head cold that started yesterday. My head is pounding despite taking cold meds, I cannot breath out of my nose and I barely slept last night.
I got up at 6:30 am to go pee and when I got back into bed, he lifted his arm with the blankets to invite me for a much needed cuddle or so I thought. I move in beside him in the little spoon position and instead of wrapping his arm around me, he grabs my hand and places back behind me ... on his dick. 😑 He wanted me to start rubbing him while he is half asleep. I'm quietly annoyed but maybe a few min and we can both be back to sleep.
A few moments later....
he wants me to start his blowjob, pushing my head down. I protest and say I'm not feeling well and he knows full well i am not. I tell him I can't breath out if my nose and still he insists. I begrudgingly try for a few min and my head pounding and having to gasp for breath every 30 seconds, he mumbles half asleep sounding annoyed that I'm not doing a good job.
At this point, I stop, say I'm not feeling well enough to do this and I need a hot bath and leave to do that while he goes back to sleep.
This is not the first time this has happened for various reasons. Upset? He need a bj. Busy doing something stressful? He needs that bj.
I feel bad for complaining to you all about this because he is wonderful in so many other ways. I have tried talking to him about it but he gets very defensive and then my submissive side wants to shrink away from that. I don't know what to do with this. I guess I just wish he were a little more sensitive to these moments without me having to make a fuss about it.
EDIT: Thank you everyone for the advice and replies, you've given me a fresh perspective on this situation. I plan to have an out of dynamic discussion about this and set clearer boundaries and remove free-use for now. If he chooses to act up because of this then it will end all together.