u/Straight_Window3243

Like the title says I’m just venting because this was so so frustrating. So quick background i am 18 years old I’m a college student and I’m a submissive/little and I was looking in a ton of sites for someone to mommy me or dom me gently in person. So I was on a popular site for that kind of stuff and I found a girl in her mid 20s that lived 90 minutes away from me. We got to talking and she said she was a sub leaning witch but she was open to playing with me as my domme. She said she’d peg me for the first time ever and was open to anything else as well. I was so excited that I might finally get the chance to live out a big fantasy of mine so we kept taking and she finally just said that she wanted $150 for an hour of play or $600 for an overnight thing. Now I’m a broke college kid with a tiny wallet (my parents have money but they don’t let me use it freely like that they want me to be responsible). I told her that and she said she’d do 100 dollars for an hour and that she’d peg me and let me lose my virginity to her and that she’s even spank me if I wanted, and also that I could cum as many times as I wanted. She even offered to drive to me 90 min then take me to her place then bring me back again. I actually agreed to that and again was so excited but then realized that it was just super illegal to do this kinda stuff. I got a panic attack because I was thinking that I was putting my future at risk for one hour of pleasure (if it would even feel good because I don’t know what pegging feels like). I told her after that I wasn’t gonna send her the money because I was too nervous about committing a crime. She was kind and tried to convince that everything was gonna be ok but I just didn’t feel right about it.

Not really looking for advice just needed a community with similar interests to vent to. I feel like she was almost trying to take advantage of my lack of experience and use me for money, as do most other dommes that I meet just because they turn out to be findoms which I don’t get. It’s upsetting because I want a genuine connection to those that I meet up with. Not a LTR but I want them to want to get with me not just be doing it for money. Anyway thanks for listening

Hi, I’m an 18 year old college student in upstate NY, but I live at home during the summertime elsewhere. I’m really new to this space and am looking for someone to teach me.

About me:
- 18 years old
- 5’5”
- On the skinny side
- Physically active (I go to the gym most days)
- College Student

Kind of relationship I’m looking for:
- In person is ideal
- Not looking for anything long term, just kinda want to experiment while I’m away at college discreetly.
- Not a 24/7 situation. I can’t move or relocate. This is not something I want to dominate my life. Just add to it
- If some of these fit but not all, please dm anyway

My preferences in a mommy (none of these are dealbreakers):
- 18-24 in age (fine if older, just dm)
- Taller than me preferably 5’9” and above, but will still go for someone of any height
- Slightly muscular (but again not a dealbreaker at all)
- Someone who I find attractive
- A gentle mommy domme
- empathetic, smart, thoughtful and kind and someone who I can trust completely with myself

My kinks/fetishes:
- I want a caregiver/little relationship, but am not into heavy age play. I’d mostly want it to be verbal and am not really interested in actual regression or anything like that. If you are interested in that still feel free to message me anyway though
- I have a fantasy where a girl is tall or strong enough to be able to pick me up and carry me around. If that is not you, totally fine because it’s not a dealbreaker for me, just something that I would really enjoy.
- Feminization: only very lightly (I’d wear panties and be called names) but no full on cross dressing or anything like that
Spanking: also lightly, hand only and nothing more than a few rough slaps, but would prefer more butt tap kind of spanking. Would love it to be over the lap.
- Anal: am open to being pegged, just would need to ease into it. Also open to toys and fingering as well
- Soft things: idk why, but I am highly turned on by soft furniture, pillows, clothing, or blankets
- Lap sitting: I also fantasize about sitting on mommy’s lap and either cuddling or having anything else fun happen 😉
- Praise: being called a good boy and all that
- Degradation/Humiliation: only in a gentle manner, like being teased or called names

Absolutely NO:
- Rough BDSM: I don’t wanna be tied up, whipped, or anything else painful.
- extreme humiliation
- extreme deprivation
- lack of communication during activities

How to reach me:
- DM me here. Like I said, if this seems kind of like you but not entirely, still dm anyway because I’m flexible.
- Don’t go straight for the sexual stuff. I want it get to know you and would hope you’d wanna get to know me too
- I’d like to see a few SFW pictures but completely understand if you don’t feel comfortable with that. I am willing to send as well but only when I’m comfortable, so I can’t ask anything else of you.

So if you’re interested at all, please reach out! I’m new to this but want to learn, I want whatever I get into to be mutually fun and beneficial! Thanks!!