u/SubstantialMedium167

So i've made a few posts on here, same old boring story with me. Been in a sexless marriage for a long time, with my wife simply giving up on sex. As time passes, I find it very hard to handle the temptation that comes. I know everyone says just get a divorce and move on but it's not always that easy, life is complicated and there's more to consider than just a sex life. But then loneliness he becomes overwhelming, in the temptation to meet those needs elsewhere, either in person or online, it becomes hard to take . I had an enjoyable time online with someone a while back and I felt guilty for a while but not any more, although every once in a while I just struggle with it being wrong. Anyone feel this pain?

It's not just the sex...it's the emotional roller coaster

HL husband, sexless for years. .. it's now a constant cycle...disappointment, anger, occasionally hope, frustration, depression, jealousy, loneliness, low self worth, and feeling despondent. I also feel cheated....Im healthy, kinda handsome, fun, .. but it all feels wasted. it's just daily talks about bills, kids, worries...etc. How do people handle this?

Mid 50's. Been sexless for over two years.. .. Had a good sex life with my wife, and then all of a sudden it quit. There we're no physical issues, teach us what respondwith...".I don't wanna do it anymore". I went through the cycle of being mad, being extremely lonely, depressed, hopeless... You all know the drill. 1 Day Out of the blue recently, i get a message on facebook messenger from someone who's claiming to be having an affair with my wife online. I didn't believe it at first, but i'm sneaky like that and began to look around and lo and behold, I found it on her phone and her facebook. They live a distance away so it never got physical but some of the things that she would talk about with him she never talked about with me ever. So many questions and so few answers, but i'm not gonna live like that.. so here I am a man in my fifties who's relatively handsome, works hard,loyal, and not to brag but good in bed. Time to start over.. for those of you who were suffering through a sexless marriage and found out that it was because of an affair, were you able to move on? Is the devastation from the affair?Still there?