u/Substantial_Fun_6253

I finally managed to start the discussion on kink and sex with my therapist. Very touchy subject for me so it's only been surface level so far and discussing why it makes me so uncomfortable.

She's been really helpful so far in making sex and kink discussion feel natural and not judgmental. Even suggesting and advocating for me to pursue meeting more people in the kink community.

We haven't discussed to much on specific kinks yet. Most of the session was breaking the ice on the topic of kinks itself. I definitely want to discuss the regret and disgust I feel after orgasming. How my identity is wrapped up with my crossdressing and sissy kink. Lastly of course, discussing perhaps interracial maybe even naming the BNWO.

Has anyone discussed the BNWO with their therapists? How did they react? Did they advocate for you to move away from it? Or did they act like it was fine?

I'm not conservative in any regard. I love crossdressing, I love the LGBTQ community and love gay marriages across the board. Love is love and if you say anything otherwise, you're part of the problem with this community.

I love the contrast between black men and white women. It's just a kink/preference. Like a rape kink, people don't (or at least shouldn't) advocate for fucking rape. There are toooooons of kinks like that all over. Kinks that are not appropriate for day to day life or for a healthy relationship. I've had women ask me if I was into cutting and blood kinks... Like, no kink shamming, but there are taboos all over. Kinks aren't an identity/ideology defining thing. You can enjoy a fantasy or enjoy it consensually with someone else without others liking it.

I find it weird that it's called "racist" when I have a preference or kink for black men. Like, I'm sorry I don't find white men attractive? Even if they do have a big dick? It's just not appealing to me. On the flip side, I loooove chicks with dicks! Futanari, trans, femboys you name it! Does that make me sexist? NO. I just have a certain type of kink. Ive been submissive long before the BNWO. I've enjoyed the idea of watching or being cucked longer than the BNWO. It just so happens that a lot of those kinks work well with one community.

I'm just getting tired of bigoted hypocritical people who support trans rights flip around and say "it's weird and racist to like a specific race". Like, grow the fuck up. Imagine saying that to a gay man. "It's sexist to like only men. What about women?"