u/Suitable-Broccoli-80

As the title describes I’m (F19) struggling with getting aroused at all by anything, even by the things I really like. I am a pretty avid masturbator, I masturbate a lot even when i’m not even really horny in the first place, and it hasn’t been an insane issue until I got with my boyfriend.

We’ve been dating for a little over 6 months now long distance and in the beginning our sexual encounters were pretty good in the sense that both of us could finish and were happy.

But now, I can’t even get wet in the first place for anything at all. Not for any porn, or even for my boyfriend. It’s not that I don’t find whatever I’m seeing attractive, it’s just that it never ever affects me. When I say that I never get wet I mean never. It’s really frustrating and embarrassing because he gets aroused so easily and I just can’t. I feel like theres something wrong with me.

The obvious answer would to be to stop masturbating so much, but I have and it still hasn’t worked. I feel like I’m broken and it is putting a small strain on me and him. He would be completely fine if I were to say I never wanted to do anything sexual again, he would never force me, but I want to be able to do these things with him because I like to… but I just can’t.

Any advice is appreciated

I (f18) don’t feel sexual pleasure from much at all anymore

For a bit of backstory I have always been an extremely sexual person. I have chronically masturbated for the last 7 years. Even when it doesn’t feel good, or I’m tired, I don’t want to, I wasn’t aroused in the first place, I still do it. Even when I’ve set a goal for myself (like a certain amount of days I should go without masturbating) I never ever follow through.

I do own toys and my main issue has been a vibrator. I’ve owned one for multiple years and now I can only cum from using it for an extended time since I’ve lost all sensitivity in my clit. I’ve dabbled in a bunch of kinks, seen a bunch of things, and now nothing seems to arouse me anymore.

It’s really disappointing and embarrassing because now I have a boyfriend, and sometimes I feel so badly that almost nothing that he does makes me wet. I’m 100% no doubt attracted to him, and when he does things for me I’m 100% intrigued… but never wet.

It’s worth mentioning that this is an online relationship, so maybe when we see each other in person I will feel more, but I’m also worried about feeling absolutely nothing when he touches me.

I know the easy advice is just stop masturbating since that will bring my sensitivity back in time, but what do I do about the fact that nothing turns me on anymore? Like I said, I’ve dabbled in plenty of kinks, watched plenty of porn, and nothing does anything for me anymore.

Any advice is appreciated. Thank you for reading!