u/Swe3tPanda99

I’m a very inexperienced and unsure sub. I’m not looking to commit to anything or jump into a dynamic right now, I’m really just looking for people who are happy to have open conversations about BDSM and kink without any expectations.

Eventually I’d like to explore this locally, but for now I’m hoping to learn from people with more experience. I’d love to hear how other subs discovered what they liked, how you found trustworthy partners, what you wish you’d known when you started, and how you built confidence.

I’d also really appreciate hearing from experienced Doms who are comfortable answering questions respectfully. I’m interested in understanding what healthy dynamics look like, what good communication and negotiation involve, and what green and red flags I should watch for.

A little about me: I work in a male-dominated field, and I tend to be drawn to the idea of giving up control after spending so much of my day being independent and capable. I’m still figuring out what submission means to me, and sometimes I wonder if I fit in this community at all. I’d really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been where I am and are willing to share their experiences.
Thanks for reading. I’m here to learn, ask questions, and have respectful conversations.

Hey! I know what sexual submission can look like, but I’m curious about what non-sexual submission looks like in a D/s dynamic.

The idea of submission is really appealing to me both sexually and outside the bedroom, but I’ve never been a submissive or had a Dom before. I’m still learning my interests and trying to understand what a healthy dynamic actually looks like.

For those with experience, what does non-sexual submission look like in your relationship? What kinds of things do you do day?

Also, if you were considering starting a non-sexual D/s dynamic with someone new, what would you want to know about them first? What conversations would you have, and what advice would you give someone who’s completely new to this?

I don’t know what has gotten into me. I feel absolutely feral. I decided to do a solo camping trip and I’m feeling frisky. It’s late at night and I hear some knee dad drinking beer by the fire a few spots over.

I unzip my cabin windows and get fully undressed. I want him to watch me. I lay in bed thinking about how bad I want someone to be watching me. I start touching imaging eyes on me.

I need to pee so I get up and walk out there full naked, I’m the campsite next to the outhouse so why not it’s pitch black anyway. I really wish I ran into someone who could take care of me.

This happened 2 nights ago and I just used my shower head replaying someone watching me. The shower head will forever be my favourite toy.