Fiancé is ruining our sex life
I need help. My fiance and I met three years ago. Our first year of dating was AMAZING. We visited each other once a month/sometimes two. We had sex almost every night sometimes multiple times a night. It was great sex. He was the first to get me to O from oral. I’ve never been able to O without “helping” during sex so this was a first for me. Fast forward to now and we haven’t had sex in two months. He thinks he doesn’t have the “equipment” to please me and doesn’t initiate sex anymore. His confidence has gone BEYOND low because he’s gained some weight and thinks I’m not pleased by him. I love him very much and still want him but every time sex comes up in a topic it goes so south it’s annoying. He’s tried looking in to surgery’s, pills, tools. Whatever you can think of and can’t find a remedy. Mind you I have never told him
He’s not satisfactory or not “big enough”. I am honest with him and tell him oral is now my favorite but I love everything else with him too. We use to be so connected and now it’s like we’re just roommates. I don’t know what to say or do. Every time I try he rolls his eyes and has some kind of response that I just can’t even come up with another response to. It’s just a circle of him putting himself down and saying I don’t want him.