u/ThegoddessAlisa

When was the last time you cried, and why?

I love the thrill of Fandom. I enjoy control and financial submission. But above all, I value my peace of mind.

I want to enjoy my sub’s submission, not his financial ruin. I prefer dealing with stable subs who can actually afford to send money.

But if sending me money means the sub is going into debt or can’t pay their own bills, ruining their life - I don’t need that.

How do other dommes here deal with subs who clearly can't afford much but still try to push their boundaries?

And for the subs out there - how do you make sure your commitment doesn't go beyond what you can actually afford?

and tell us what exactly attracts you at a particular age

But I have a question about dominatrix gentleness. Do you encourage treating subs like people, not just rags? I want to hear answers from both dominatrixes and subs?

I’ve been observing the scene lately and it’s fascinating. We have thousands of men lurking, watching every move, consuming every photo, yet they call themselves subs without ever contributing a single cent.

In my view Findom isn't just about money—it's about the psychology of power and worth. A real sub finds his value in how much he can provide for his Goddess. But today? It feels like most silent subs are just looking for a free emotional fix while hiding behind a screen.

To the Goddesses: Have we lowered the bar too much by giving these lurkers any attention at all?

To the men: Do you actually enjoy being invisible and useless, or have you forgotten that your only relevance in this world is your tribute?

Let’s be real. If you aren’t paying, you aren’t participating. You’re just a spectator in a game you’ve already lost