Want to improve as a beginner Dominant Partner
I recently started dating someone more seriously who’s really into BDSM and has more experience than me. On my side, I only discovered that world around 3 months ago with a previous date, so I’m still very new to all this.
Honestly though, I realized I really enjoy it. I’m still a bit shy/cautious because I never want to hurt someone in a bad way, but I can feel I’m naturally into the dominant side.
I know she already explored things like knife play before. That’s definitely too much for me right now as a beginner, but it also made me realize there’s a lot more to BDSM than just choking someone or being rough for no reason. I’d like to slowly explore more “hard” stuff over time and actually understand what I’m doing.
She’s experienced, but not like “10 years in the scene” experienced either. we are in the 23 years old range
I’m mostly looking for advice/resources/videos/guides from people who know the subject well. Things like how to choke safely, slap correctly, control intensity, build tension, read reactions/body language better, aftercare, etc. Also curious about ideas/things worth exploring as a beginner dominant.
(Of course communication, boundaries, safewords and discussing what she likes come first.)