u/ThrowawayFoder

Got a kit from Amazon. Stainless flat with inversion cup, spacers for inversion cup and 1.5" stainless cath. Can combine as I wish and snug anything moveable down with a 3mm hex key for safety.

Tried it with full length and half length inversion and even tried out the catheter part after soaking it in rubbing alcohol and then generous clean lube. A little tight passing everything through the center when on me but functional. 45mm ring.

When I tried, this morning to put it on as just a flat cage, it wouldn't align to lock and pinched my skin to the point of drawing a little blood. Not what I signed up for.

As a sizing note, have run 45mm plastic curved rings in the past without issues. Wore this for about 3 hours as inversion without discomfort.

Could this be due to not enough space between plate and ring due to too much skin pushed up by the lock? I'm 7.5" hard. Are there any tricks to this or do I need to go up to a 50mm ring for more space?

Not sure why the issue with just flat plate.

Any guidance for a newb would be appreciated.

Thanks

I have a lot of self play kinks that work well to together. I'll get super focused on my kinks and lose some of the focus on sex with my Wife. During this time, I will purchase and play with new toys, get into conversations with others redditors who have similar kinks and overall spend way too much time focusing on the next orgasm.
Then, almost like someone throws a switch, everything suddenly feels hollow and valueless, my focus shifts back to my marriage and our sex life and I throw away any toys I've purchased. Let half a year go by and I'll go back down the rabbit hole for another month or so.

As I'm getting older, I do notice that the time I spend emersed in my kinks doesn't seem to be as long as previously.

Thoughts? Is this common?

About 3 hours into my first attempt with a flat/ inversion cup cage. Bought a multiple configuration kit in stainless. Ring size feels comfortable. Have had a few different polymer cages over the last few years. Something a bit weightier to the steel.... maybe psychological but it just feels more locked.

How have members here introduced chastity play to your wives? Would love to play together rather than in private. Would love for her to hold my key 🗝️.