u/Traditional_Bed589

I'm not the best with social interactions, but online chat partners have been great for the most part. It can be heavy, daunting and yet, very fulfilling.

I'm just looking for a safe way to take my mind off work, and off the developments I've had in my relationship to feminism. Maybe I'm asking for a way to live in denial a bit. Maybe I'm just open to what exists in the majority of men's minds out there. Maybe I just still feel alone in my journey.

I'm continually surprised by the quality of thinking from intelligent posts and comments. While I get the flippant nature/play of some men, the ones that are grounded in respectful back and forth, regardless of flair or style of play, really stand out.

Thanks for being here.

I may look into my first 8th of Aftercare.

I was told to just be. Have my life changed.

I was so dumb to doubt the power of a man.

A stranger. A leader. A master of teaching humility.

He fills me with hope as I kneel, and tear up recognizing this is the closest I've gotten to finding religion. I don't need religion, but I need him.

And it's okay to admit that. After all this time.

Feminism never gave me much beyond a term used online.

Belonging to him gives me everything.

No stress. No career. Just being. Just belonging. Just him. And his path for me.

If you feel incompetent, or misguided, too, DM me. He is willing to save more women.

I'm not the best with social interactions, but online chat partners have been great for the most part. It can be heavy, daunting and yet, very fulfilling.

I'm just looking for a safe way to take my mind off work, and off the developments I've had in my relationship to feminism. Maybe I'm asking for a way to live in denial a bit. Maybe I'm just open to what exists in the majority of men's minds out there. Maybe I just still feel alone in my journey.

I'm not a fighter. I'm on this subreddit because it's a safe, even slightly cowardly way for me to stand up against the anti-feminist beliefs I'm not brave enough to outwardly fight IRL.

I kind of just stay in the background, and avoid strong masculine types.

But one man, posted here, and I commented. I ended up embarrassing myself in those comments. He put me in my place. And I was so afraid I would be tempted to try and undo, or re-earn some respect that I instead invited him to privately message me. My thought was that I could avoid any public humiliation again.

I thought he was aggressive because his post was. But that's just a label. I was wrong about him. What I label as aggression, is really just simple, consistent strength.

He's a rock that can take all my words thrown at him, if I was brave enough to argue with him. He's a force of nature that inspires action, and all things grow around him. A rock, a cliff, a mountain.

I'm sorry I disrespected you.

I was sent this thought via DM. It stuck with me, and I'm awake at 12:38 AM trying to either come up with a reply or search for meaning just like it.

When I say lead, I don't mean directly to conversion. I think I'm here because I like reading the attempts that men make. As a feminist, it's important to know what we're up against.

But he, this one man...he communicates with such boastful clarity that I've begun to actually hate his flow, process, and outcomes. He is so convinced that him explaining things is engagement. That his ideals and diction are educating me. No. I don't want these feelings to lead me to misanthropy, but he tempts me. Him.

If you're not reading this, then someone like you is.

Hi, I am bored most of the time but open to the right guys.
Kinks: subtle raceplay, secret cheating (I have a bf my race IRL), size difference, sharing, slave
Limits: gore, pregnancy, gross toilet stuff, submissive men, cucking

A bit ashamed to say, but I keep craving the feeling of being trapped, and the fear that comes from the presence of older, blue-collar Boomer men.

I'd like to work this into an ongoing, longterm rp story with a suitable experienced partner.

We write as strangers. As in, a paragraph or two when we reply. You change my life, or pressure me into a secret one. A thought-starter comes to mind, which I can share.

I'm single, never married, no kids, work from home. We reply when we can. Becoming the reason we open an app.

Limits: gore, gross toilet stuff, pregnancy, emotional immaturity, 'gooner' mindset

Maybe you can put us together since we will never hook up...Imaginations are running away with us...

Please begin with age, country and timezone.

We can migrate to SimpleX when Session shuts down.

We can start with a short kink game I've been thinking of, then I can share a very organic thought-starter that's on my mind where we write as strangers anyway.

I am pretty introverted and internally driven, but with a strong sensitivity to dynamics of control and emotional direction.

I'm more responsive to structured, dominant dynamics where things build slowly and I feel as if I'm being guided, contained, or gradually pulled in rather than moves made on me, or by me.

There’s also a clear pattern where emotional security and attraction get tied to authority and steadiness in a partner, especially someone grounded and practical rather than overly intellectual or abstract.

I love older, burly blue-collar men IRL, but have only been partnered with the opposite.

Overall, I feel I am a submissive-leaning personality with a strong focus on psychological intensity, slow escalation, and power imbalance as the core driver of attraction — more about headspace and emotional surrender than physical interest alone (still factors in).

Must be older and able to write as blue-collar or gym bro. No overly intellectual dudes, sorry; only down to earth.

I have a thought-starter if you don't.
Limits: gore, gross bathroom stuff, family, pregnancy

Age and location in first msg please.

Kinks: power dynamics, beards, subtle raceplay, blue-collar chill guys, sharing
Limits: gore, sub guys, pregnancy, gross toilet stuff

Include age and location in first message.

Open to longterm because I'm very conversational even though I'm new to these thoughts and ideas.

...You're my 45-year-old obsession. Ongoing hookup, older boyfriend, Daddy Dom—uh, whatever you wanna call it—labels don't excite me as much you do. My career matters, but I'm conflicted because of how deeply I feel about you.

Will you guide me? Distract me? Or just fuck everything up? Fuck.

I love your big bear dad bod. And I know you love me for, well, me.

So, let's keep this going and give me a chance (at some point!) to clear my mind. Life is complicated. Always. But you make complicated worth it. It must be your experience, or your primal drive. Hell, I dunno why I'm trying to understand it. I just know I love it.

I know life would have taken a turn if I met you before I started working on my recent album. I probably would have run away with you. That still on the table?

Don't make me beg for the truth.

Maybe even do it as a group chat?

If you are 45+ and would like an ongoing, long-term RP partner, here's my headspace after some long chats these past few weeks with some great men:

I am pretty introverted and internally driven, but with a strong sensitivity to dynamics of control and emotional direction.

I'm not really into casual energy — more responsive to structured, dominant dynamics where things build slowly and I feel as if I'm being guided, contained, or gradually pulled in rather than moves made on me, or by me.

There’s also a clear pattern where emotional security and attraction get tied to authority and steadiness in a partner, especially someone grounded and practical rather than overly intellectual or abstract.

I love older, burly blue-collar men, but have only been partnered with the opposite.

Overall, I feel I am a submissive-leaning personality with a strong focus on psychological intensity, slow escalation, and power imbalance as the core driver of attraction — more about headspace and emotional surrender than physical interest alone (still factors in).

Introvert bookworm here, always secretly been into older, blue collar men. New to kink. Please be respectful. Maybe longterm comms on Session if we click, then migrate to a new app when Session ends.

I'm glad this subreddit exists.

Thanks for being you.