Pregnancy and Hotwifing?
Hello all, first time seeking advice on this topic. We have been in the LS for many years, both as thirds prior to meeting and now as a couple. It has been absolutely wonderful to explore my fantasies with my partner present and encouraging, and I love being able to reciprocate and make his wildest dreams come true!
However, we are in the midst of family planning, and I hope to be pregnant within the next few months. This has created a significant shift in my mindset, specifically regarding safety. We always practice safe sex and never had any real scares while playing, but I had my IUD removed last month and I’m feeling nervous without that extra layer of assurance. I’m also worried how a potential STI could at best delay my timeline due to treatment, and at worst result in pregnancy termination.
Our dynamic when hotwifing has so far been husband finding one-time bulls for me to play with, which has worked incredibly well for my physical desires, but is not conducive to fostering trust in my play partner, as I’m usually naked within 10 mins of meeting 😂 and we don’t reconnect again, one of our soft rules. We are both hoping to avoid emotional complications with a third, so I am hesitant to seek a more regular play partner.
I’ve thought about putting a pause for at least the next year or so for maximum safety but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. My husband has been incredibly supportive and understanding, but I know he is also worried that this may lead to a permanent reprioritizing and may push out our extracurricular hobbies, and we would both feel disappointed by that. To be clear, I love playing with others, but I’m not sure the perceived/actual risk is worth the reward.
I’m seeking advice and lessons learned from other women/couples who navigated hotwifing while pregnant…did you keep playing through it, and how did your rules or boundaries shift?