u/Typical-Analyst-5459

I just had an epiphany about why I love being submissive and giving all control to someone I trust deeply.

In my everyday life, I have a lot of responsibilities at work, with family, and with things I want to do. I have a brother who is very dependent on me; I am the "smart kid" of the family. At work, every problem comes to me because I am the only person who bothers to do the research.

Anyway, I have ADHD and a lot of different hobbies. My days start with small decisions and the whole day is consumed by decisions. I am tired of deciding everything. It is nice to have a person you trust and can hand all the power and control to: no more decisions!

It feels like a holiday, and I miss that.

Hello, I am a 33-year-old woman. I had a Master for 9 years who was also my boyfriend, and I had wonderful experiences. It was an open relationship so I had some play partners too.

Anyway, we broke up 2 years ago, and recently I started to look for a potential dynamic. I am on FetLife, my profile is an open book, I clearly stated that I don't play with anyone who tries to enter a dynamic very early on, etc.

I get a lot of messages. Obviously, people think that if a woman is submissive, she submits to people randomly.

Why on earth would I want to submit to you when I don't know who you are and there is no connection? I don't want to take orders from random people.

Yesterday, someone said that if my profile didn't say I am submissive, he would think that I am dominant, because I talk with confidence. What the fuck.

If I submit to someone, I should admire, trust, and respect him; there are many criteria.

I am tired; I feel like I am too old for this shit. I don't want to teach a man what consent is at this point.

Does everybody experience this?

Edit: As a heterosexual woman, I spoke from my own experiences and through the lens of a heterosexual female perspective. My intention was neither to exclude anyone's experience, nor to imply that all men are like this. Sorry if it came across that way.