Hi All
I (m50) posted on here a week or two ago that my gf (f30) but broken up with me, with fears about the age-gap although we never talked in detail about those fears. Anyway, another (complicated) thing about this relationship is that we live 7000km apart. I had already been looking to transfer to her country as the company i work for also has an office over there. Well now it looks like i may be able to move later in the year. This is quite bitter-sweet as i wanted to move anyway but now i'll go there knowing that we're not together. She had said that the distance hadn't helped and that maybe we could have worked through it if I had been there. Obviously, I'm not going to bother her if she doesn't want me near, but she said that if i go there may be the 'risk' that she won't be able to resist. My question is, would it be fair on her being near her, knowing that she'll want to get back together but also knowing that it'll trigger these fears again? I dearly want to marry her but don't want her to get back into a relationship that she later regrets. Just to add another layer of complexity, she's from a country that doesn't allow children with foreign partners to have nationality so she also has fear about that.
I don't know how i ended up in such a complicated situation :(