looking for a first dom and failing
Hi there! I’m new here and would really appreciate some advices.
I’m really sorry, but there a little of context to understand my situation. Me (31f) and my partner (36m) decided to end our 10 years relationship. We were a really good friends, but our sex life clearly didn’t exists. In last few years I discovered my desires to more sub/dom dynamic and more general my kinks interest. And we didn’t match. So after years of trying to fix that we reach a wall and decided to end our relationship.
Now trying to find someone with whom I would click. I’m interested in finding someone caring, honest and understanding, of course a dominant one. But I never been with other man than my fiance. So I feel almost like a virgin. And I have no experience in „real” bdsm sex, only from reading, fantasizing about it and some not really good scenerio with my ex. And my question is - how can I talk about this with new potential partners? I tried to be honest - telling about my low experience and that I’m looking for someone who would like to explore my sexuality with me and maybe be by guide. I was trying to reach some potential partners of feeld. But I don’t think it’s working. Maybe I’m too open about my insecurities? Maybe it's too overwhelming?
Of course my ideal scenario would be to find a life partner material. But I know it’s too much to ask, so for now I would love to be in a long term, stable sexual relationship. Maybe someone have similar experience and now how to help me? Thank you if you reach to this point! Thank you for your advices.