u/User_Rewind

I think I just don't know how to talk to young women anymore, even with sugar to ease things along. After a bit more than 1 week on seeking, I've had basically 3 types of responses:

1. Women whose conversational skills consist mostly of "lol" "yes" "no" "good morning" "wyd" and other brief responses. This is the majority. How am I supposed to get to know someone well enough to decide if I want to invite them on a M&G based on essentially zero introductory conversation?!? I'm not sure if the low-effort responses are just a more socially acceptable way of ghosting someone nowadays? I'm lost.

2. Girls who almost immediately name a PPM and ask when we can meet. Sorry, next. That's not a sugar relationship, it's sex work. No judgment but that's not what I'm seeking.

3. I had one M&G with an SB who seemed delightful and checked most of my boxes. She mentioned plans to expand her cosmetology business, and since I’ve spent 30 years building startups, I immediately saw several ways I could help. As a gesture of being a capable provider, I had my team create a website mockup and business plan for her. She seemed eager and receptive when I sent it, but the replies felt odd. Eventually I realized the enthusiasm was mostly ChatGPT. I asked her very kindly not to use AI so I could get to know the real her - she suddenly told me she was done because I only talked about business, my texts were too long and exhausting, and blocked me. (I had given her a $xxx gift card just as a token gift at the M&G, which I understand is not really the norm at M&Gs but I got a bit too excited and couldn't help myself. So if she still wasn't interested even after that, obviously I completely alienated her.)

Clearly I need a new plan, but I'm lost. Advice?

Please be kind. I'm very new at this. I understand I probably am making some dumb moves here and I am seeking friendly help to learn how to do better.

Title kinda says it all. Taking my sb on a cross country trip to New York for the first time. Up til now everything has been local PPM $xxx.

Trip will be about 48 hours. I'm sure I'll blow a ton treating her to a show, 5-star hotel, nice steakhouse, etc.

With all this in mind... do I still need to discreetly hand over 48 hours' worth of PPM at the end of the weekend? Or is an exotic fun travel weekend compensation enough in itself?

EDIT: No need to be rude. I'm a relatively new sd learning the ropes. I'm here legitimately asking for community advice because I don't know what's customary. I'm open to learning, y'all don't have to act like I'm a dick for even asking the question.

I am a fairly new SD and so far have only met a small number of women in my local city.

Recently I've noticed an interesting trend of being contacted by women from the Philippines, latin America, etc.

Assuming these women aren't scams (which of course is a big if), I seem to be able to attract a lot more interest with my bio and what I am able to provide, with these foreign women as compared to offering the same things to American women.

Asia is too far for me but I could reasonably fly to Latin America twice a month. I'm seriously considering setting up a series of M&Gs in Costa Rica over a long weekend to test the waters and see if things just feel like more of positive vibe there.

Just curious if any other SDs have looked at this equation and investigated the possibilities?