u/VanillaisB0ring

Now that I have your attention, I'm sorry to inform you that I am unfortunately not a muppet fetishist.

What I am is a well educated, successful, conventionally attractive dominant man with ten fingers and ten toes who unfortunately is in a dead bedroom situation (she's on meds that killed her libido, sucks).

I'm not looking to change your situation or mine.

What I do want is a spark, a connection, some adult fun and a woman who gets off on the idea of being a stressball.

That's right, I said stressball.

What I'm looking for in you: Sane, drama free, kinky/submissive, attractive, not overweight (sorry, personal preference) and looking for banter between being told to be a good girl.

I'm on the East Coast. Got a busy schedule but can carve time out with a little bit of planning.

Absolutely zero interest in just a penpal, drama, OF models and/or men pretending to be women. I will ask for verification relatively soon and am happy to provide the same.

If this is you, drop me a line with your first name, age and the last book you read. Go!

I am going to describe a girl to you. She is sitting in a man's lap, having her hair brushed, and she is very happy. She is being picked up at the airport-- dropping her bags she runs and leaps into the arm's of a man, who twirls her around. She is slowly stripping out of her clothes, and the hunger in her man's eyes makes her blush. She can't stop thinking about him. She is addicted to him, craves affection, cherishes his attention. I want that girl. I want to find an eager, submissive girl, and I want to awaken her need, her desperation, her addiction. I want her to fall into my arms, and drown in my need for her. Still with me? ;) Good girl.

Most girls can control themselves just fine without the need of a man to step in and show them the consequences of their actions. To most girls, the idea of someone forcing them over the knee and administering a no-nonsense, hard punishment spanking on their completely bare bottom seems like a curious fiction, or a silly game, or a little joke, or perhaps an unnecessary and regressive stereotype. And for most girls, that's the end of the matter.

But you are not most girls.

‌**There's the public you:** Bubbly, cheerful, well educated, intelligent, on the path towards a great career or degree, you have good friends, a loving family, a leader, a feminist and for all intents and purposes a well put together strong woman.

**Then there's the private you:** No one would guess what goes on inside your mind. You find yourself in a state of turmoil or indecision. There's an emptiness. You feel a deep need to let go. There's dark thoughts, sometimes you can't understand them. But you recognize your urges, your need. You want a firm hand to grab the metaphorical leash around your neck and lead you. you want to give up control, you want to be told what to wear, you want to used, you want to be objectified... above all else you want to please.

Me?

**Public me:** For the outside world I'm successful, reserved, well liked and have my life together. I'm 36 years old, 6'3'', fit but not jacked, attended an Ivy League school, well traveled, speak 4 languages, and have a range of eclectic interests. I've had past vanilla girlfriends and a large circle of friends who just know me as exactly I've described above. I am married and not looking to change that.

**Private me:** In the bedroom, I enjoy taking control, being sadistic and extracting ever drop of pleasure my sub's body has to offer. The mental aspect of domination appeals to me more than the physical. I like getting inside my sub's head. Beyond the physical, I crave having someone to mold and make better. I want someone to use, dress up and control yes, but I also want someone whom I can help improve; to help her achieve her goals, set timelines, establish objectives and administer punishments if not met.

**Expectations:**

·      We get to know each other over chat and then move to a different platform. After you are comfortable, we will play over video. Do not reach out if this is not something you want to do.

·      I have a busy life outside of kink. I am **NOT** available 24/7. This is a construct for me and for you within which we play. When we play you will have my full attention but when we are not playing I have a life to live, I expect you do too.

·      I have a preference for fit or close to fit girls.

·      Privacy, yours and mine, is extremely important to me

This is our secret.

So where does it leave us? If you related to the girl I described, drop me a note with your first name, age, a brief description of yourself and the name of the last book you read.