u/VoidEchoer

Dear fellow lurkers, 34M, and I’m posting because I’m trying to make sense of my own thoughts and figure out if any of you operate the same way.

Despite being genuinely happy at home I strongly desire an AP. Society assumes stepping out means your marriage is broken, but for me it’s a completely separate craving. It’s about experiencing raw passion and a secret connection that just doesn't fit into a comfortable, domesticated routine. I don't want to replace my wife or blow up my life.

I know to an outsider this looks like I just want the best of both worlds. A stable “settled family” life
and the wild passion on the side.

Are there other Desi folks here who want an AP simply because they crave more? Rather than trying to fix a void?