r/DesiAdultery

It was a night like any other, and my gf was out of town. For a bit more context, I have never come out of the closet, but I am secretly bi and I might not even come out for that matter.

So, I was horny at night, and saw this amazing side couple who were blowing the hell out of the top. I got so curious that I installed Grindr and started texting random men.

Soon, it got serious, and without even a do, my profile started getting flooded with matches. I was overwhelmed. Suddenly, I got a text from this real cute guy, and he started chatting me up and made me feel real comfortable. We figured we only live two blocks away, so he invited me over. I was sorta not sure about it and I was scared for my life.

He made it so easy for me, that I ended up going anyway. I was like YOLO. He was very tall, but lean, and sweet af, made me feel at home. He offered me weed, which I declined, and we started speaking about kinks.

I don’t know how but one thing led to the other and we were kissing. Yeah, the first time I kissed a man, and it was so good. He didn’t waste a second, he went down, pulled out my cock, and blowed my brains out. I came so fast, and I was embarrassed. He made me feel real comfortable. He even helped me clean up. But that triggered something in me, and in no time, we were 69ing, and his cock was bigger, so it was hitting my throat and I was gagging all along. Then we came, and I told him how much I liked someone playing with my nipples, and we teased the hell out of them.

We came once more, and I went back home. I wanted to reach out again, but other commitments led to the experience being a one night stand.

Random monday musing.

I have been thinking about the parallels of affairs and running a startup.

• Finding a compatible cofounder is hard and needs serious due diligence.
• Questionable morals are needed.
• One has to be creative with finances.
• Solid risk management skills are needed.
• Equal parts exhilarating and nerve-racking.
• You underestimate the effort needed to juggle workstreams.
• Scope creep often happens.
• Exit strategy is often unknown and won’t be clear till much later.

I am looking for an emotional connection above a physical one. Definitely not looking for anything physical initially but rather looking for someone to be emotionally connected and vulnerable. Combined with the fact that I am specifically after a desi connection and not in India, I think I have higher chances of finding a long distance connection.

And the idea of it does not bother me atm, I am looking forward to it. But it might just be my naivety. So looking to hear your experiences and/or preferences and the reasons for them. No judgement, listening with an open mind.

I am sure all the women and few men will downvote this.

But most will agree, desi women are most entitled when it comes to affair. What i have noticed :

- they will never put effort when making a post, some dont even put age and location, or if they just want things online

- most are here only to feel wanted and seek validation. They love how me flock in their DMs, they enjoy the dopamine from number of dms with no intention to find an AP

- then if they do reply to a mens post, they are so fucking tired of typing that they will just say hi and ask basic questions like age which are already there in the post.

-they expect men to make huge post and carry the conversation, while they put minimal effort and their excuse, “i have a life, i am busy”

- there are few who would ask to exchange pictures, but do not understand the definition of word exchange, for desi women exchange means only men giving

- then there are few who wants men to tell them on text what they will do with them - fuck you, if you want to read erotic literature then go read erotica, i can guide you to many sites

- many desi women here are BBW… lol the term is basically created by women, who are okay to be big but want their affair partner gym tonned

I am sure many of you desi men would have your own stories. Lets put it out here in comments.

And i would say if you see such women, call them out.

Firstly let me say that I am new to this world and it does feel good to find a sub of like minded folks. As you know this isn’t the easiest of topics to share or talk about.

To the main question- curious to know what made you tip over into this world? I am sure we all start off our marriage not looking for an affair, and even try to hold it all together when things go south until a certain point.

No judgments at all.

To everyone here, when did you decide to step over the line and what caused it? Was there a particular instance, build up or did an opportunity just present itself? Was it a dead bedroom, incompatibility, emotional needs or just the thrill of it?

Genuinely curious, not judging