29 [F4R] #California #OrangeCounty - Well rounded Domme looking for a long term sub (or two) for dating and Domme friends!
In person only! Online isn’t my thing. Only message me if you’re in OC, SD, and LA!
Do not message me if you don't have the time, energy, or emotional bandwidth to get involved in a dynamic. People who know what they want are sexy. I don't want to spend weeks talking only to end up with someone telling me they aren't capable of sustaining a dynamic. I understand if there's no attraction, but that is very different from knowing you can't give a dynamic/relationship what it requires.
I’m A, a Domme located in sunny SoCal! I have many names and titles, some which are relevant and some which may not be. Trying this again because apparently I like to torture myself through this process, HA!
Let me address the friends part - I would love to make friends with fellow Dommes or Domme leaning switches. I don’t have enough friends who are like that and would love more of that energy in my life. I’m very much someone who places importance on friendships. I imagine this would be the same as any of my friendships except we happen to talk about dynamics a lot more. So please Domme friends, feel free to message!
Let me list some important things about me that I feel any friend or sub (especially a long term one) should know and share in:
- CHILDFREE - I am never having kids. I am not interested in kids. I do not like talking about kids. If that’s important to you, I suggest you look elsewhere.
- LEFTIST - I do not lean right nor center at all. I do not get along well with people who don’t share the same ethics and values as I do. If you’re going to message me just to complain about this I will avidly use the block button.
- POLYAMOROUS - I am not monogamous. You should and can assume I will be involved with other people, sexually and romantically. I currently have one comet partner. I also will not help you cheat if you're in a monogamous relationship.
- HONESTY and COMMUNICATION - I am not someone who is honest to be cruel. I do so with the intention to facilitate open communication, which is important. I am honest about my concerns and worries in a dynamic/relationship/friendship and about my STI results (I get tested on a quarterly basis).
I’ll give my kinks in a short list because I do not want to focus on that, as a main concern for me would be getting to know you as a person outside of kink. However, I recognize the importance in making sure that I have kinks in common with a sub of mine. If we have any in common, let me know, but I don’t want to hear much more about that except for any boundaries you have.
- Praise
- Worship
- Degradation
- Spanking
- Pegging
- Edging and denial
- Sensory deprivation
- Bondage and restraint
- Wax play
- Cucking (I do not primarily want a cuck but enjoy this as an aspect)
- Free use
- Group play
Not into bathroom play, knife play, age play/being someone's Mommy, diapers, or sissification.
I am hoping for a sub I can see long term and who I can at least get along with as a friend. Friendship is the baseline. I would love to date as I am ready for that, and that’s my main intention. If you just want a bedroom partner I’m not the one for you. I need to get to know you as a regular person. Which is a great segue into telling you about me!
But let me start off with my usual spiel: resident chaotic wee devil with a penchant for whatever captures my mind and my hands, and a deep love of shiny things (I may be part crow). If you give me a rock or knick-knack of some kind, there's a high chance I’ll put that on my desk to fidget with while gaming.
- I’m not really a homebody. I like to be outside when I can, whatever activity it’s for. For me when I’m not working, the day is meant to be spent outside the house and then at night, hop into PJs and enjoy my evenings. My motto is get out during the day, and enjoy a cozy night in.
- I’m not a world class athlete, but I enjoy physical activity as it helps me manage stress and makes me feel good. I primarily do indoor climbing, yoga, and weightlifting. I love swimming, which I need to get into again. I also would love to get back into aerial silks and pole dancing! It’s fun to have someone along for exercising for support and accountability. I also do enjoy hiking but don’t like to go super fast. I go at a steady pace, but prefer to enjoy the views as I go along. I call myself a Hobbit hiker!
- I love TTRPGs. I started out playing 5e only but now claim Pathfinder 2e as the superior system. I dislike Dungeon World though, it’s a drag for me. I’m always happy to try other systems. I’d say this is probably my favorite special interest. I do love my clicky clacky math rocks and am always happy when I get those as a gift. I’m in one group at the moment (5e). I love hearing about other people’s campaigns and their character builds. Like yes I’m not being sarcastic when I say I want to hear every detail about what shenanigans your party is getting into!
- I love reading, oh that’s probably my hobby I’m most known for. I read a lot on my Kindle, especially since I found out that I can read books I check out from Libby on there. I like to mix in genres and complexity, as I like to challenge myself and my critical analysis skills, but also like books for when I want to make it easier for my brain. I don’t buy books as often anymore, mainly because I don’t have space. In addition, I only buy books that have re-read value for me, so that helps the wallet. Most of the fiction books I have on my shelves I’ve read at least once. Non-fiction is another question, it really depends on the subject of the book. Talk bookish to me!
- I play piano and have for a long time now. It’s something I like to do for purely my own personal enjoyment and to keep my mind active. I take lessons on a regular basis, and enjoy learning a variety of pieces. I like to learn classical, modern songs, Disney music. I bring several options to my teacher, we test some out, and I pick whatever vibe I’m feeling. If you play instruments, tell me what piece you’ve been learning.
- Video games are something I’ve gotten more into over time, ever since I finally got a gaming PC. Let me tell y’all, not worrying about my computer crashing or graphics has been such a nice change. I did get my gaming PC mainly because I wanted to play BG3, which, speaking of, would love to be able to do an evil/neutral run with a partner.
- I’ve got multiple tattoos, with plans to get more. I’m thinking my next one will be a raccoon launching a fireball or Andúril. I’m a big fan of color tattoos that are fantasy related. If you’ve got ink, I definitely want to hear about it! And if you know tattoo artists in SoCal who do watercolor or realistic tattoos, I definitely need recommendations.
- I’m 5’3, Middle Eastern (so brown hair and eyes, tan), curvy, and sarcastic at times. Can also be funny but that depends if we have the same type of humor!
Sub wise, be at least 21; I'm looking for those who are emotionally and mentally mature so I lean towards subs who are closer to my age or older. I don't have time to lead someone through whether or not being a sub is for them. Be sure of who you are, I am. If you already have a romantic partner do mention that. Again, I’m not here to help anyone cheat! I prefer to be parallel poly, meaning I don’t want to hear much about your partner(s) beyond some exceptions. An ideal sub would be in OC but I am also open to LA and SD. Nowhere beyond those though!
Feel free to send a chat if anything resonates with you! Mention your age, where you are located, kinks we have in common, and other regular info about yourself like I’ve mentioned here! I’m happy to verify in chat if you’d like. I do like to see what people look like early on. But SFW pics only!