u/Western_North_8022

I like to think I'd be uncut just because I feel like it suits my vibe better. I did ask my dad once what he would've done about that if I was born male, and he said he never thought about it and would've done whatever the doctor recommended. I was born in the 2000s in the U.S. so it was like 50% of male infants getting circumcised when I was born, so I truly don't know what I would've ended up with.

I'm 19m, I've hooked up with him (35m) 3 times. First time was last December, then we didn't see each other until April, then again in May. We've tried to plan to meet again but the plans keep falling through and we live about 2.5-3 hours from each other so it's hard to be spontaneous with anything.

The first time we hooked up was when I was travelling in his city. After we finished I rolled over and said "fuck, that was like the best sex of my life," to which he responded likewise, and said to let him know the next time I was in the city so we could see each other again. The second time, the sex was amazing again, and he invited me to spend the night, and he's clearly not someone who lets hookups stay over often. I hadn't expected it, I had a place to stay that I was fully assuming I would go back to, and I wouldn't be so presumptuous as to ask to sleepover at a hook-up's house, especially considering he had work the next morning. This time though, he asked me what my expectations were and then made it very, very clear that he doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship for now. Fair enough, I said I just want him to keep fucking me. The next morning I was getting ready to go and didn't want to overstay my welcome or get in his way of getting ready for work, but he just kept talking to me, and I remember I said "you really don't want me to go, do you?"

The third time I saw him was very similar to the second, except this time he told me I gave him some of the best head of his life. I also managed to make him cum from a blowjob, which he said is very difficult for him. I stayed over again this time and again in the morning he kept talking to me like he didn't want me to go, but again I didn't want to impose. We haven't been able to meet up since then though not for lack of trying, it's been like 3 times we've planned and had to cancel in a row for one reason or another (sometimes for work reasons, most recently because he got sick). He's said over text that he always looks forward to seeing me. The last time he cancelled on me, about a week ago, I suggested that the next time he could come to my town and we could get a hotel, which he said sounded fun.

I really want him to keep fucking me, because it's absolutely the best sex I've ever had, every time I see him I think about it for weeks after. Of course we're both very physically attracted to each other, I don't think the sex would be so good if we weren't. We've also had good conversations, but we didn't get onto any very deep topics. I'm really trying to not want a relationship with him or act too crazy about him or anything. He told me normally he doesn't fuck guys under 23 because they kept saying they fell in love with him, I don't want to add to that trend. I think I've done a good job so far at keeping my expectations in check and hopefully being measured with my reaching out to him, though I think I may have been a bit much lately. I'll be going on vacation for a bit in two days so I think that will help me pull back a little though.

I know I'm absolutely overthinking this and that it isn't helping me at all, but I do keep wondering how possible a relationship with him would be in the future. I think it's honestly less about him than the fact that I already want to move to his city and I'm really sick of my small town. I'm kind of just using the idea of a relationship with him as an outlet for my desire to move, but the fact that we've had such amazing sex is also contributing. We enjoy each other's company on a sexual level and we've had pleasant conversations but I don't think we have many interests in common, we both like live music but for completely opposite genres and shows. It's just the factors of:

1. he's very attracted to me,

2. he clearly enjoys my company, and

3. the good sex + he said I gave him some of the best head he's ever had

That make me think maybe I'm not crazy for thinking maybe at some point a relationship could happen here. Honestly I do know the best thing would be to stop thinking about him so much, but I've been trying and I haven't been able to get him out of my head. From what I read up on limerence, the advice was to try and turn the positive thoughts about a person into negative ones, and I simply don't want to do that with him. Like I said, I at least want him to keep fucking me, if nothing else I'd be perfectly content if that was the extent of our interactions. I have been fucking other guys who live much closer to me and I've been mostly disappointed. I've had a little fun and I do my absolute best to communicate what I want with them, but most of them don't even seem to put forth an equal effort to what I do for them. If anything, it's making me think about this guy even more because I end up thinking what he can do that they can't. I also find him more attractive than any other guy I've hooked up with, so of course that doesn't help either :/.

So I (19m) met this guy (mid 30s) about 6 months ago when I was traveling in his city. I live in a small town about 100 miles away from it, and it's a major city that I desperately want to move to. My current job has locations in the general area so I'm hoping I can transfer to one of them within the next year or so. Anyway! I had been looking for someone to hook up with, and even though this city has a huuuge gay population, I was actually having a little trouble, I guess because it was a weekday night and most people there are on a 9-5 work schedule. He messaged me first, and immediately I was insanely attracted to him. I don't think I have a type because I'm into all kinds of guys, but if I do have a type, he fits it exactly. Dark hair, older than me but still built like a twink, really handsome face, just a little bit taller than me. I'm more of a jock bottom and I like the contrast of being fucked by a guy who's skinnier than me. We chatted a little, he said he likes very passionate sex, and I headed over to his place hoping I'd be passionate enough for him. Oh my god, once I was there he truly fucked me like I'd never been fucked before. Normally I want sex to last longer than it does for the guy topping me, but that was not the case this time, he completely wore me out, and he came at least twice inside me. I rolled over and said "fuck that was like the best sex of my life", to which he responded likewise. We talked and cuddled a bit but he told me I had to leave because he had work in the morning, which I completely understood and I had no problem going back to where I was staying, and he told me to let him know when I'm back in the city again.

That was it for a while, I was thinking about him verrry often but I had a lot going on in my personal life so I couldn't make the trip out there for quite a while, until April actually when everything lined up perfectly for me to go see him. I texted to see if he would be available the night I was in the city, and miraculously he was. It was even better than I remembered, again we felt perfectly matched up in terms of sexual stamina, and he's so good at talking dirty to me, which is a huge turn on for me that most guys don't seem to even want to put in the effort for. This time he also invited me to sleep over with him, which I was completely not expecting, and he's definitely the type of guy who's verrrryyy picky with who he lets sleep over with him. Even better, I was able to see him again about a month later in May. That was the most recent time I saw him, and he said I gave the best head he's ever gotten. I slept over again, and in the morning I managed to make him cum when I sucked his dick, which he told me is very difficult for him. When we fuck it's like we're mutually pushing each other to see how much rough, hard, passionate fucking we can take, and we're both continuously impressed with the other's stamina. I was hoping to meet up with him again a week ago, but it didn't happen because of his demanding job sadly :(. We're hoping it'll work out next week though.

Every time I see him I really can't get him out of my head for weeks after, he fucks me that good. He said he's very much not looking for anything romantic at the moment, which is totally fine with me, I just want him to keep fucking me as often as possible for the indefinite future. I'm doing my absolute best to be a chill, normal guy towards him despite how his cock makes me feel lol. Even though he's obviously into me, I just keep thinking I don't want to fumble so I can keep seeing him because we have such amazing sexual chemistry that I haven't found with anyone else. The last guy I had something close to this with said that knowing we couldn't be romantically involved in any long-term sense made him lose his attraction to me and we stopped hooking up because of that, so I've probably got some lingering feelings left over from that situation tied up in this one honestly. Any other advice for not fumbling other than continuing to try and keep my expectations in check?

just thinkin bout the guy I wrote about here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Gaytguyhornyjail/s/00I66t6DYW

I was supposed to see him about a week ago but it didn't work because of his demanding job sadly :(( But! we're trying to reschedule so hopefully next week it's gonna happen, and he knows I'm a pup so he said I should bring my hood. He forgot I don't have one yet, but I told him I do have a collar and leash so I'll bring those. Today I took a picture of me wearing the collar with the leash on it and he replied "sexyyyy"

I'm thinking about him suuuper often, lowkey probably more often than I should. He's so sexy and I'm obsessed with how he talks dirty to me. I love getting fucked Hard and fast in a way that not every guy has the stamina for but he does, and I just love how I feel like we're able to push each other to see how far we can go/how much we can take in terms of rough, passionate fucking.

I initially didn't think of him as much of a daddy, I mean he's 16 years older than me (I'm 19) but he's still built like a twink and all smooth. So at first it was a little unexpected when he referred to himself as daddy when he was talking dirty to me, I think he must've said something like "take daddy's dick"... yeah didn't discuss kinks much beforehand but I'm suuuper submissive so I guess he just read my mind and saw the daddy kink on me clear as day. I still remember thinking he wasn't much of a daddy but I think I did call him daddy anyway, it was still hot to me. Last time I saw him I asked if he likes being called daddy, and he said it's neutral for him but he's fine with it if it turns me on, and honestly calling him daddy is really growing on me. Even if he's not much of a daddy now, maybe he will be in 5-10 years, and I like the idea that I might make him feel more like a daddy. Cannot get him looking down at me and saying "suck daddy's dick" when I gave him a morning blowjob out of my head.

Even though he's clearly into me I just keep thinking I don't wanna fumble this man, not in the sense of trying to have a romantic relationship with him but like, I desperately want him to keep fucking me as often as possible for the indefinite future. Probably some lingering insecurity from a previous guy I got involved with who said he lost his attraction to me knowing that we couldn't be romantically involved ughhh :/. Honestly my first time fucking this guy is what got me fully over that last guy saying that to me, so maybe that's part of why those feelings are tied up in this. Sorta melancholic note to end the horny post on sorry lol, if anyone has any ideas how I can avoid fumbling other than not being crazy with him (I'm doing my best to keep my expectations in check and be a chill normal guy despite how his cock makes me feel) I'd love to hear

previous posts about this same guy: https://www.reddit.com/r/Gaytguyhornyjail/s/vsKHa4q5GP

I got to see him again a 3rd time last night and I am absolutely obsessed with how he fucks me. Each time I see him I cannot get him out of my head for weeks after. He pounds me so hard, so deep, and so much. Crazy stamina. With other guys I'm always trying to get them to go multiple rounds because I'm still horny when they've cum, but with this guy I feel like we're actually matched up in terms of stamina. I haven't timed it but each time I've been with him, the actual fucking part feels like it's gone on for like an hour. It feels like he's trying to use me in every position he can think of. This time there was a new one for me, he fucked me doggy style with my torso on the bed and my legs off it.

This was the first time I gave him a blowjob too, and he said it was some of the best head he's ever gotten, he was really surprised how long I was able to keep sucking him. I didn't make him cum when I first sucked his cock, I got him close but he wanted to fuck me. But since I was spending the night, I had another opportunity. We were cuddling in the morning and I reached around to feel his bulge, and pretty quickly I was in my preferred dick-sucking position: laying on my torso between his legs. I did the same things I had done while sucking his cock the night before, listened to how he told me to use my hand, and of course made him cum this time. When he asked me if I wanted him to cum in my mouth or on his chest I just kept sucking and let that make it clear what my answer was. Then after he came he asked if I wanted a towel to spit it out on and I had already swallowed. He was Very impressed by me, said it's really difficult for him to cum from head, but that I did everything perfectly :).

I (19m) have a very hard time cumming when I'm with someone else, even though I can get myself there when I'm alone alright. As far as I can tell it's a combination of death grip syndrome and performance anxiety because I'm someone who is verrryyyy in my own head about everything. I've been having grindr hookups for about a year now and up until now no one has made me cum, and anytime they tried I preferred to shift the focus away from myself onto them because I just didn't like the pressure of feeling like I would disappoint them if I didn't. I got really really close when someone gave me head for a long time once but that was about it, and I still couldn't manage to cum that time. I'm telling you, it was a goddamn achievement the two times I even managed to make myself cum while I was with someone else. This hasn't been much of an "issue" in my view because I honestly really enjoy feeling like someone else is using my body. I'm very submissive and I get plenty of satisfaction from serving someone else well (as long as they give me enough praise) and the feeling of a good dick in my ass. Having said that, I wanted to really try to cum next time I see one of my fwb so I stopped jerking off to completion a couple days ago in preparation. And welp, a side effect of that was extra horniness so I ended up on grindr a couple days before my planned visit to that fwb.

Last night on grindr I ended up finding a really sexy couple (37m and 41m). We played for a while, they both fucked me and came inside me but we were getting along well so I stuck around until I got them horny again. One thing led to another and after a loongggg blowjob I actually came! I felt like I was right on the edge foreverrr and I thought he would give up eventually but his husband kept encouraging him to keep going while kissing me and holding me tight. He gave absolutely amazing head of course, I was really just surprised he was able to keep at it for so long. They both found me super hot as well, said I'd be popular if I ever go to the nearest gay bathhouse, and they told me I'd be welcome over anytime in the future.