Should I End Things With This Couple I’m Seeing?
For context this is a couple I’ve talked to for a couple weeks then had to stop talking to them for a good month or two (not by choice but not getting into that rn). I recently reached out to them again and started chatting with them regularly. Things aren’t official I’m just talking to them and hanging out with them even though we occasionally joke around that we’re basically already a throuple.
The reason why I’m making this post is because the female from this couple makes jokes/comments that make me a bit uncomfortable and I don’t know if it’s even worth mentioning or just stop seeing them all together. I’m black, the female is white and the male from the couple is mixed (Hispanic and black). She would say things like “I miss my negritos” or ask me if i like grape/watermelon flavored things or even ask if i know how to make egusi soup (mind you Im Caribbean not African).
Now I want to add they asked beforehand if im comfortable with race related jokes early on when i met them and i did say yes, but honestly i didn’t know i was going to be this uncomfortable. Moreso when it comes from her. I don’t know exactly why, part of it is probably because it feels weird hearing these jokes coming from a white person than a black/Spanish person. Also it feels a bit stereotypical because I make it known in Caribbean black but these jokes are African/african American based (idk if that really makes a difference or not anyway). Either way it just feels uncomfortable and I don’t know how to approach this situation because 1, I already agreed to being okay with these jokes and 2, I don’t want anything to be awkward.
I could also be overthinking it and taking it the wrong way as she could genuinely be joking and mean no harm. I do understand that could be what’s happening but it still doesn’t make me feel less uncomfortable. Both things can be true at once.
I’m not currently looking for anything serious right now anyway so I was thinking about ending things but I don’t even know if it’s worth mentioning to her. (Also if I do should I only talk to her about it or mention it to the male partner? Or ask him for advice or get him to talk to her for me? Idk)