u/Wooden_Drawer_5718

Hey Y’all,

Sorry if this breaks any rules but I originally posted this,

https://www.reddit.com/r/smalldickproblems/s/2gGwAUdLXm

Tl;dr - Was in touch with a cute girl for a couple years, didnt take it too seriously as we were in separate countries, and I didnt do my usual thing of pushing girls away. She came down, and was hinting so much at sex. We had a phone call where she made some comments along the lines of she wishes there was a way for girls to know what they are getting in to penis wise, and some comments about size. I freaked out. Posted here and took the consensus and just sent a long message to ditch her.

Fast forward - She didnt reply for a few days. She then replied when she was drunk and said how much she really liked me and how hurt she was. Crazily enough we were at the same beach club at the time. We met; she cried, she begged me to tell her why and if it was something she did. I told her no, and to just enjoy today.

But there is a part of me that really really really likes this girl. So I met her today. After a few hours of talking she kept trying to guess what happened and why I was acting weird. She then said, fine if it embarrasses you so much I don’t want to put you in that position, and we can just move on and be friends. I didn’t want that. So i told her. She listened, and she said okay well thats fine im not a size queen, and I wasn’t expecting a monster schlong. She started asking a lot of questions, she kissed me and hugged me.

One question she asked me is, Am I able to have Sex. I looked at her, and I said idk, yes. Which was a lie. Idk why i did it.

She told me that look honestly she hasn’t been in a situation like this before, and she said the only logical thing for us to do now is have sex.

To be honest guys, Right now I don’t think I can have sex. That said I feel if I lose some weight, I could probably be around 4 to 4.5 inches erect. I haven’t really measured in a while after i put on weight.

I have really fallen for this girl, and I feel that I want to try to change for her. But I don’t think I can get intimate with her now and ruin it. I also have phimosis which I need to deal with. I neglected myself for so long over this.

Am I crazy to think I can talk with her and ask if she is willing to give me some time? What would you guys do in my situation.

So, obviously i have the same problem you guys do. I learnt to accept it a while back, so it doesn’t really bother me anymore until recently.

I’ve always steered clear of relationships, buried my self in my work and made a decent name for myself in my industry.

I met this girl at a friends birthday, we spoke briefly and she was interested in me. This was like 2 years ago. I think im a very friendly person, and my intention was not to give out any vibe that I was interested in her, she is like a really close friend of my best friends. For me this is already a big no no, since girls talk.

Over the past 2 years, she followed me on social media and we have been talking on and off - we dont live in the same country so we didnt do meet ups. I should not have engaged but idk, she seemed easy to talk to.

So fast forward like 3 months ago, she told me she is coming down to my country. I started panicking, and i tried to distance myself, but we went from talking a couple times a week to her calling me everyday. I stopped thinking about my problem, and I started to fall for her.

Fast forward to now, She is here and we went on 3 dates so far, and shes really perfect. She has it all, good looks, friendly, very kind and seems perfect for me cause we allign on so many things.

We were talking recently and she started telling me about her exes, and she said “oh and he had a really really small penis”. My heart froze. She then laughed and tried to go on saying that the first time she reached for it, she didnt feel anything. I smiled at her, and changed the subject. She then went on the whole subject of small penises, and turns out she and her friends have had a lot of encounters. At one point she described her friends ex, saying that he was perfect, handsome tall ect ect, like an actor but he had a really tiny penis, and that her friend had to end it because of that, and how they felt bad for him. Mind you these are very conservative girls. She said that they wish there was a way they could see what they are getting in to, So i guess for her this is a non-negtioble thing.

Shes been hinting at sex, and going away for the weekend. She probably thinks im stupid, and I dont see the signals. Frankly if I didnt have the problem I do, I would’ve banged her the second she got off the plane.

Idk what to do, it just feels good to get this off my chest. She wants to meet this week, and shes been asking my plans for the week, but it has been made abundantly clear to me that this is not something she is willing to accept or work through. I know I need to cut her off, as much as that would hurt to, but I dont see how I have a choice here. I feel bad more than anything that i wasted her time. To be a little fair to me, I was always so distant and I didnt really engage as much, but for some reason that made her push some more in the last couple of months.

Honestly I cannot have PIV Sex, and it has gotten worse in the past months as I have put on weight and my fat pad has grown. I have only ever had oral sex before.

Am I being logical here cutting this girl off? I do not know how I am going to do it. I tried so hard to be distant and shit. But I kinda feel that she is trying hard to push and is planning her vacation around me.