Hey everyone. 40 year old guy here, finally putting myself out there. I’m 5’7”, 165 lbs, brown hair and eyes. Happy to share more pictures after we verify — too many scammers out there and I want to make sure we’re both comfortable.
Outside of Kink - Me!
I’m currently studying cybersecurity, which keeps my brain pretty occupied — I’m also neurodivergent with ADHD so it keeps things interesting. When I’m off the clock I like to relax, watch movies or shows, or do something fun. Snowboarding is my winter obsession, and when there’s no snow on the ground you’ll find me outdoors, gaming, or hunting down live music. I’m learning guitar right now — always learning something. I’d describe myself as boisterous and outgoing in most situations, but put me in front of a woman I’m genuinely attracted to and I get completely flustered. I have a pretty playful sense of humor and love joking around — life’s too short to take everything seriously. I like to unwind with a few drinks and I’m 420 friendly. One thing that’s always been true about me — I’m genuinely interested in my partner’s hobbies and passions, and I love finding ways to share in those things with them.
One thing worth knowing about me is that I experience rejection sensitivity pretty strongly. It comes with the territory of being neurodivergent. I tend to overthink things that most people wouldn’t think twice about — my brain just runs with it and assumes the worst sometimes. I feel like this is important to mention because it has affected relationships in the past. I tend to be extremely passionate about the people I’m into. I’m self aware enough to know it’s there and I’d rather be upfront about it. I try to be deeply communicative and tell a partner if something feels off rather than shutting down or disappearing.
A clear dynamic actually helps with this a lot. Having someone who is direct with me helps with confusion. So in a way this side of me is part of what draws me to this dynamic in the first place.
What I’m looking for
Primarily online to start, but open to something in person if we genuinely connect. I’m looking for a lasting dynamic, not a one-time thing. There is something about a confident, dominant woman that I’m drawn to on a level I can’t fully explain — it’s less about the acts themselves and more about the energy and the dynamic. I’m fairly new to the scene but I know what I want, and I’m always open to evolving and exploring. The connection and trust come first for me.
Kink interests
I lean toward the softer psychological side of submission — humiliation, orgasm control, and power exchange are where my head is at. I have a growing list of interests and I’m always open to exploring new things with the right person. Happy to get into specifics once we’ve actually talked.
Hard limits
I do have a few hard limits but they’re fairly typical requests that most people would understand — happy to share them privately so we’re on the same page before things go anywhere.
Drop a message if any of this clicks with you — tell me a little about yourself and let’s talk!