UPDATE: Met my POT SD this weekend…
Okay so I posted before asking if I should meet a much older POT and wanted to update because I actually ended up having a surprisingly good experience. Here was the post if you missed it:
https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/s/5rG0uHMiAC
He flew out to my city on Friday and invited me to some conference/event thing before dinner. I had to decline because I had literally just gotten off work and was exhausted. I asked him directly if he’d be covering my travel and he sent mid $xxx just for Uber which I appreciated.
We went to a really nice restaurant and I was EXTREMELY nervous (like questioning all my life choices) but honestly he was way more charming than I expected and incredibly easy to talk to. Conversation flowed immediately and I relaxed pretty quickly.
We talked a bit about previous arrangements and he admitted he actually doesn’t have a lot of experience sugaring which became increasingly believable as the weekend went on.
We ended up starting the arrangement right away and I did go back to his hotel after dinner. He sent PPM. A yellow flag for me though: he was clearly willing to have sex without a condom and I stopped things and said I wanted to use one since we hadn’t exchanged tests and especially considering he’s married. He was respectful and we used one, but it definitely made me raise an eyebrow.
I didn’t stay the night but he wanted to see me again the next evening and I agreed. Second night we went to one of his favorite spots and had another really good time. At one point he told me he really liked me and was thinking about deleting Seeking because he kind of wanted me to be his baby. Back to hotel for intimacy. Again I left instead of staying over even though he wanted me to… although I did end up going home in one of his shirts 😭
This is also where I realized he genuinely may not be very experienced because when he sent PPM this time… he accidentally sent it under his real name.I googled him and turns out he’s kind of prolific in his industry like enough to have a wiki page.
Last day we both had things going on so we only met late at night for drinks. Afterward I asked if he meant to reveal his identity and he looked like a deer in headlights and admitted he absolutely did not lol. To his credit he didn’t seem too worried in the end (I obviously don’t have bad intentions but HE doesn’t know that).
A few observations:
- This man REALLY wanted me to know he has money. Lots of talk about shopping, flying me out, etc. I take future talk early on with a grain of salt.
- We actually had really good chemistry.
- Funnily enough the first two nights were not the strongest sexually as he was having a difficult time getting hard but the third night was like a switch flipped. Whether or not it was chemically induced idk. The man has stamina regardless 😭
- I can tell he feels a bit awkward about sending money? Possibly because it’s hard to figure out finances around his wife. He did send kind of late one time but never shorted me and reassured me to never feel weird about bringing up money
Overall I had fun regardless of where this goes.
Ended up making mid $x,xxx for the weekend and he also sent a little extra after he left when I asked. We’ve chatted here and there since then.