u/Yeet_thine_tits

Made a post here a few days ago looking to chat, and while its been fun speaking to people of all places, its highlighted where Id like to be heading in this community, and so I figured Id just reach out directly with what Im looking for.

Im looking for a cis woman local enough to Dublin Ireland, but also willing to talk to people who are close enough, think the UK and a little beyond that. Looking for someone who is casual about wearing, I think being a switch would probably be ideal for the both of us (Im a switch) but its not neccesary. But I think most importantly, Im looking for someone who I can build an actual decent relationship with, with the intention of having one offline aswell. Im willing to "support" you as best as any partner in a relationship is, but also dont come to me with a buttload of problems and expect me to fix them for you as I see alot of posts like that, Im only one man with enough of his own ones to deal with lol. Overall (and this part is just in general not explicitly related to abdl) looking for someone who is outgoing, compassionate, is fun to be around, someone who I can just enjoy spending time with regardless of what were doing.

Now, Im not looking for the "Yeah Ill love you if you pay me Daddy" kind of women, Ive spoken to too many of them while looking for genuine interactions, and it genuinely made me feel worthless as a human being. Also not looking for erp or it "just being a sex thing", I want to know the person in the diapers before I get into them, I want stuff like that to have meaning, like my ideal first meeting would purely be a "I need to get to know you to know if Im okay being vulnerable with you" kinda thing, whether thats over coffee or dinner you tell me, but we'll take things slow enough so we can both decide if this is right for the two of us.

About me: 24M, 6', bigger guy but I have the frame for it (or so Im told lmao), Im into nerdy shit like Gunpla, cars, collecting old stuff, etc, I listen to a wide vareity of music, I drive and have really been enjoying going out fishing/camping with my mates recently, and of course, Irish lad, I love going out for pints with the lads. As a result, lifes been taking me in a positive direction that makes me feel like I want to come away from being abdl, but I end up back here anyways, so Id like to find someone who makes me feel accepting of this side of me, and hopefully I can give that to you aswell. As for that side of me, I mentioned Im casual with it, I dont do 24/7 as I live at home, but its something I would be open to trying given the right environment, and Im very open to supporting it if thats your thing and youre comfortable with it. I mainly wear them to get off in at the end of the day if I have the time/house is free, so do with that info what you will lmao.

The one thing I ask of you is that you reach out to me. DMs are open, and Ill respond at reasonable hours, but if youre as serious about this as me, I've taken the first step in reaching out, so its your turn!

Tldr: Looking for someone serious about being in a relationship first, abdl-partnership-thingie second.

Irish lad from Dublin, been enjoying talking to people in the abdl community recently so opening my dms for chats. Looking to speak to people who want to actually have conversations outside of what we get up to in nappies, plus Id like to talk and get to know you before going further, but we'll see how things go!

(Gonna probably be in a service blind spot for a few days so be patient if I dont get to you!)

Well lads, dunno if the topic has ever been brought up on here before, feel free to remove if it is, but I figured Id stop dancing around the question and ask directly. To those of you who are in or have been in AB/DL relationships, whats some advice for starting out with finding potential partners?

For reference, Im a straight lad in my mid 20s based in the GDA, Im more on the DL side of things personally and have in recent months really started to not enjoy personal use of diapers, just preferring them as an extension of whatevers getting me off.

Id ideally like to find someone who is into AB/DL, probably more casually than full time but willing to delve in deeper. Obviously its kinda hard to hop on Hinge or the like and outright state "oh yeah I like girls who wear diapers and use them" as thats usually a point of contention for most people, and Ive had very little luck with fetish apps since I really dont want to put pictures of myself and my body out there, and so have hit a wall. Id also like to take this opportunity to say this isnt me advertising, I am genuinely looking for advice.

This is gonna be a part of me for life, even if I grapple with my identity with this fetish pretty regularly, so Id like to be with someone who is of a similar mind, but also have a relationship that isnt solely focused on AB/DL. So, does anyone have any good tips for that kind of stuff or am I utterly doomed? Lmao