29F, me and my husband started the lifestyle relatively recently (about 4 months ago), I was the one who approached the subject first and after a little hesitance round that I do actually really like it.
We've had the same cake for the last 4 months, which is a 22F that he works with. I've always enjoyed submission and a part of this kink has reinvigorated that in our relationship with my husband giving me commands to clean up etc.
The last 3 sessions however the cake has started getting involved too, first time was that she asked my husband to have me clean her up, second time was her asking me directly to clean her up, which my husband then pulled me over and last night she said to my husband that the only pussy for him is hers and I should be anal-only, which he thought was incredibly hot.
Now, the weird thing is, I don't have a problem if these were my husbands own ideas but it's the fact that it's coming from her.
Kind of having a weird time mentally. More than happy to clean this cake up and let my husband fuck her and just generally be subservient, but the second the commands comes from her I hate it.