Older Couole Just Starting Out
Hi all!
Some background...we are an older couple and only recently acknowledged our own very different sexual desires. Spouse is a male that is not straight and leans heavily into private cross dressing/Sissy tendencies and prefers to be a bottom (we do pegging quite a bit). I am female and not straight but lean heavily into the asexual spectrum. I have always enjoyed watching bondage/bdsm porn and longest for being controlled (also undiagnosed neurodivergent that leans into bdsm because everything else in my life has to be strictly controlled).
I recently expressed my desires with my spouse after all these years together and we bought some inexpensive constraints to experiment. Last night was the first time using them and it was amazing for me. I have always struggled with orgasming but last night it just flowed when I was able to give up control and just be dominated.
Up until now, I have been mainly the dominant one due to his desires to be subbed in his Sissy role but looking for advice on how to help him take dominance when the tables are turned where I am the sub. We have been married over 30 years and each is willing to help the other meet their individual needs. How should we move forward?