I’m a 22M and I’ve been with my girlfriend (19F) for about 8 months. Around a month and a half ago, I did something that made her uncomfortable, and it’s been affecting me ever since.
For context, she was showing me how good her butt looked in the shorts she was wearing. During that moment, I kept asking her to take them off, even though she was already saying no. I didn’t stop right away, and eventually she got upset and left the call. Looking back, I feel really guilty about how I acted. I crossed a boundary and made her uncomfortable, which is something I genuinely hate about myself.
When we talked about it, I apologized sincerely. But her response stuck with me—she said something like “all men are like that.” The way I took it, it made me feel like I’m just another guy to her, nothing special, and that hurt.
Since then, things feel different. She hasn’t really made any kind of advances toward me anymore, and I can’t help but feel gross and insecure about myself. I don’t see myself as someone overly obsessed with sex—I enjoy it, but for me it’s more about connection, feeling close to her, and feeling wanted.
I’ve tried bringing this up, but whenever I do, she either tells me to “behave” or ignores it completely. That just makes me feel worse, like my feelings aren’t being acknowledged.
I don’t know if I’m being immature for feeling this way, but it honestly hurts.