How do you tell if someone is just shy or not into oral?
We have only been seeing each other for few weeks and recently had sex. It went really well, and it was intimate... Lots of kissing, cuddling... then we fooled around in my apartment. Then, we ended up having a second round.
I enjoy giving oral, so I went down on him for a while, and he seemed to enjoy it very much. I stopped before he came. And I asked if I could sit on his face. He said yes, but he seemed a little surprised. I sat on his face but I kept short and gentle. Because I wasn't sure how comfortable he is.
We went on having piv, kisses and cuddles a lot during and after.. overall we had a great time together.
One thing I noticed that he never initiated going down on me. don't want to assume anything. He could have been nervous, or simply taking things slowly. Or don't know..
Shy?
Mutual enthusiasm for giving and receiving oral is important to me, so I would rather have an open conversation than make assumptions.
For those who have been in a similar situation, how have you brought up oral preferences in a relationship without making it feel like criticism or pressure?
Also, I am a bit afraid, if it was too much for him that I sat on his face.