u/_eternaltickles_

I’ve been into brushes, feather dusters, and really soft sensory stuff for probably 10 years at this point, in the sense that I have explored it in one way or another. I’ve done it by myself and with different partners, so I already knew it could feel insanely good physically.

What I didn’t expect was how emotional it would get with my fiancée.

Sometimes she’ll be brushing me and I’ll get so overwhelmed that I start crying. She’ll tell me I’m okay, that I’m doing a good job, and for some reason that just makes me cry harder.

It’s hard to explain without sounding dramatic, but it can feel almost mystical.

I’ll get to this point where I’m not really thinking about anything anymore. I’m just completely in it. The sensation, the vulnerability, her paying attention to every reaction, the fact that I feel completely safe with her. Then afterward I feel wrung out in the best way. Calm, lighter, really close to her.

I guess “healing” is the word that comes to mind, even though I don’t mean that in some medical sense. More like a huge emotional release.

What’s so weird to me is that the actual play can be ridiculously gentle. Sometimes I’m having this huge reaction and she’s basically just touching me with something soft. No pain, no need to make it harder or more extreme. Sometimes softer and slower gets me way further.

I’ve known for years that brushes and feather dusters can do something crazy to me physically. I just didn’t know they could get this deep emotionally too.

Has anyone else had a kink they already knew they loved suddenly become way more emotional or meaningful with the right partner?