u/absolute_lover_pet

I love having a journal specifically for my sexual / BDSM journey. I don’t write in it every day, but I try to at least once a week. I have some vague categories that keep me focused and motivated to use writing to explore the kinkier side of myself.

Right now my journal categories are:

1. Fantasies
2. Experiences and/or reflections
3. Self-love
4. Prompts

My hus/dom and I currently read a book together and check in about it (and other things) every week. I use the journal to jot down my thoughts and that is mostly what I’ve been writing for the prompt category.

I’d love some new prompt ideas if anyone has any…. One of my first entries was to think about the prompt: What would I like to learn about my sexual self?

Anyway, I would love to hear if anyone has a journaling practice related to their kinky lifestyle!

And by “it,” I mean any part of your dynamic! I’m interested in hearing systems/logistics, mindsets, rituals, and maybe how these have changed over time. I’m legitimately curious about others experiences, successes and struggles. Whatever you are willing to share.

Some context about myself: my hus/dom (35m) and I (33f) recently welcomed our first baby to world, 11 weeks ago. Obviously this (and pregnancy tbh) has changed some of the ways our dynamic looks. One thing we use to enjoy was long, pre-planned Sunday afternoon scenes followed by elaborate aftercare, which is not going to happen again any time soon. We are totally fine with priorities shifting. We love taking care of our little one and are excited for a new phase of life. Now we’ve agreed that Sunday nights, we will check in with each other, plan for the week, and maybe have a bit of time for maintenance if baby is asleep. :) There’s also been a lot of dirty talk lately that is us essentially planning things we’d like to do when we have a little more time/freedom. It’s hot, but definitely has me thinking: “huh, I wonder when we will be able to do _____?” Honestly, it feels kind of exciting. A chance for fresh ideas and to get creative. I love being my Daddy’s/Master’s (depending on the day) pet and princess, and even though our dom/sub relationship is taking a backseat for now, it still feels important to keep showing up for each other in this way.

So anyway, how do you do it?