Here's my situation: I (25f) have used two BDSM dating apps and spoke to plenty of people online and even met two in person. But I find that on these sites, most people are extremely secretive (understandably so, I know you don't want someone you know to learn what you are into) and it leads to issues like catfishing or people treating it like Tinder but with more anonymity. I am also in Europe and I feel like there are less options near my area compared to what is available in North America.
I am considering an alternative approach where instead of hiding my face and revealing my kinks, I make a standard profile on Bumble but I communicate to potential matches what I am into in some way that does not get me banned or freak out other users.
I am looking for any kind of symbol or flagging that tells whoever finds my profile that I am a little and into ageplay. Since outside of BDSM this is really taboo, and I want my profile to be otherwise neutral (not something that makes men instantly think of sex when they read it), I am struggling to find solutions. I don't live in a big city so the likelihood of someone from my work seeing the profile is not low, so it needs to be appropriate enough.
I found this site with some symbols, but I have no idea if anyone would actually recognize them if I planted them in the background of one of my photos: https://kinkyinkpress.com/project/bdsm-symbolism/
And to the mommies/daddies/doms reading this: what would be the most subtle way to let you know that I am a little/sub? Would you even consider using an app like Bumble at all?
I am planning of only adding photos of me at parks or playing with my cats in more childlike outfits, including jelly bracelets, pig tails, stuff like that. The text also talks about being an open minded and free spirited person, but I have no idea if that is enough. And since ageplay is usually so misunderstood, I don't know how exactly I can ask someone if they could ever like something like that without them thinking I'm a fed or a creep. Any advice on how to navigate this would be super appreciated!