Lately I’ve been feeling extra sensitive and overwhelmed, and I’m trying to understand it instead of just ignoring it.
I’m an architecture student, and it’s finals season, so I spend most of my time alone working on plates. Because of that, I’ve been feeling more isolated lately.
As a submissive, I’ve noticed that when I feel like this, my emotions get more intense. I overthink more, feel more attached, and sometimes I just want to rely on my dominant to stabilize me.
But I don’t want to become overly dependent. I want to be able to regulate myself too, not just rely on a dynamic.
Lately I’ve also been struggling with rest. Even when I lie down, my mind won’t stop. It feels like I’m always “on,” and when I try to sit with my thoughts, I end up spiraling.
My dom is really kind and supportive, she checks on me and reassures me when I’m overthinking, and I’m really grateful for that. But I don’t want to reach a point where every time she asks about my day, I only bring negativity. I want to learn how to regulate myself better too, especially since we don’t talk as much on weekends and we’re both busy at times.
For those who are submissive, how do you handle emotional overwhelm without becoming too dependent on your dominant or partner? How do you balance needing support while still staying emotionally independent?
I do notice that I feel more grounded and able to regulate when she talks to me, compared to when I’m by myself, which is something I’m trying to understand and work on
I also feel a bit ashamed when I’m like this, which probably doesn’t help.
I’d really appreciate perspectives from people who have learned how to balance both