u/astrophage-1

I'm a newish sugar daddy but an experienced dom with "standard" kinky tastes aka not extreme fetishes. I don't think I'd enjoy a long term relationship with a sugar baby who wasn't interested in being submissive and would definitely be much happier with an experienced submissive or a less experienced one who wants to delve into it readily. I for sure want to weed out sugar babies who aren't naturally into it and just tolerating it. I'm 32, in a big city, pretty attractive, and primarily looking for early 20s sugar babies. I have "vanilla is nice, but I think it's best suited for ice cream" on my profile but that seems to be too subtle for everyone but the more experienced kinksters (also the chain emoji is apparently vulgar haha). How should I make this clearer without it seeming creepy/a red flag? Also when should I bring this up explicitly with the girl, again without it seeming creepy/a red flag? I think it's necessary to bring it up kind of early just so we don't waste each others time as it's a bit of a long term dealbreaker for me and it does seem like maybe roughly half of the sugar babies I talk to are into bdsm to various degrees