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About Me
I'm a 44 yo physician in Austin Texas, muscular fit, looking for a long term relationship, my one true lowercase. 😉
I'm an intense, intellectual, focused and driven individual and while I'm very chivalrous and empathetic in general, I do expect my partner to have a great deal of initiative in serving me.
I uphold older masculine ideals like honor, generosity, and honesty. My favorite book is Dune, which communicates a lot about my ideals if you've read it. I love the poetry of Gibran and ee cummings, and my medical practice is based around building growth and meaningfulness into my patient's lives, and I'll talk your ear off about how I want to revolutionize healthcare.
Lately I've been building my YouTube channel, mostly on medical topics, like where does the "normal range" come from for lab tests? But I also have a kink podcast and recently built a longevity app in addition to my other apps. I've also written a 3 book series on the psychology of kink.
I recently started ju jitsu, having finally hit my main weightlifting and aesthetic goals (still debating if it's worth it to go down to 14% body fat or to stay around 17%ish, which is my current level.
What I'm looking for
I'm looking for a \*highly energetic, positive-minded, remarkably intelligent, conventionally attractive, slim, petite, athletically fit (no potbelly)\* woman, ideally younger than 30 (I want to have space and time to build our relationship for a few years before considering the issue of kids, which I do want, just not right now), whose kinks match well with mine and is willing to gradually build a loving full relationship in all ways, with fun and affection and all the normal aspects of a relationship, but also with a firm basis of power exchange and ownership.
My best fit would be with a woman who is described by friends as "sweet" as a predominant characteristic, and who is fulfilled by a traditionally feminine role, including "keeping house".
It is important to me that she looks at her role as my second in command, able to take initiative but also follow orders and be trained in the ways that I need. I would be a poor fit for someone who is anxious or depressed.
She should have demonstrated her ability to be self-motivated and take initiative in an energetic way by having graduated college, holding a consistent job, or in post graduate school, as well as by maintaining friendships with other women. Professional or in school for a profession would be ideal. Alternatively, by having several hobbies that she engages with deeply and regularly, and has become skilled at and works hard at consistently.
These to me are markers of reliability and capacity for hard work and relational contribution and maintenance.
It's also important to me that she is able and interested in flirting with me throughout our lives, keeping a fun, sexy engagement throughout our lives, not settling into "comfortable" monotony.
The best way I can express it is that I'm looking for a woman who takes \*\*\\\*pride\\\*\*\* in serving her partner in traditionally feminine ways, cooking and cleaning, being happy soft and peaceful, who is excited at the idea that no boyfriend or husband has it better than hers, and finds it innately fulfilling to support a driven, ambitious partner, while also pursuing her own goals.
\#My Kinks
I've been Dominant in my relationships for more than 20 years and have plenty of experience and safety focus with rope, clamps, whips, floggers, and spanking.
That said, I have a creative and dirty mind, and my primary kinks revolve around humiliation (which I define as anything that makes you blush the next day), free use, cockwarming, misogyny, orgasm control/denial and non sexual service (1950's). I like being called Daddy (and enjoy the caregiver role), but not age regression.
I love the feeling of calling my girl Daddy's good little cunt, making her hump my foot to orgasm and then lick up her mess as she thanks me gratefully for allowing her to cum.
Or teasing my slut to the edge, asking her when she thinks she'll be allowed to cum and hearing her admit she literally has no idea when her next orgasm will be. I leave her begging on the edge, feeling her ache and throb, and then making her suck me off, feeling me cum and feeling my release as she's left horny as we cuddle up and sleep.
Or seeing the hesitant obedience when I tell her to spread her legs so I can spank her pussy or clamp her clit.
Just a sampling of things I enjoy for flavor.
I absolutely need a partner who can handle me \*saying\* anything, without getting triggered, and who is ok with me discussing fantasies even if she's would never want to do them.
I'm also hung, 99th%ile length and girth according to this data: https://calcsd.info/
Toys are fun, but it's the psychology that drives me (my third book includes my ideal training manual... If we get far enough, I'll let you read it).
If any or all of that sounds like your cup of tea, I'd love to hear from you!