u/awhisperinthevoid

Dear reader,

It's well after midnight here in Seoul, South Korea and I can't seem to persuade myself to go to sleep, even though I have a work function to attend tomorrow morning. I have a bad habit of staying up way too late. My sleep schedule is absolutely screwed, but I like it that way. There's something kind of special about the peace and tranquility of a quiet night - the fact that there are no expectations of you, and no pressure to be anywhere or do anything.

A friend of mine has been staying with me for the past three weeks, and she just left yesterday. While I'm ecstatic to have my space back to myself, I guess it feels a little odd not to have someone permanently around. The happy medium, I suppose, is this - virtual company while I enjoy my space exactly how I like it (dimly candlelit, the perfect temperature, with a very soft fragrance to cultivate a relaxing environment).

I don't want an ordinary conversation. I want something you'd only get at midnight (and please don't misunderstand - I am NOT looking for anything NSFW): a meeting of minds, an exchange of ideas, a thought-provoking debate... Something that pushes the boundary of the intellect and makes me feel suspended in the liminality of the night for just a little bit longer. If tomorrow comes and our brief interaction comes to a close, I won't be discouraged or upset. I leave the creative direction of our conversation entirely in your hands.

About me: I am 27, originally from Montréal but doing AI research here in South Korea. My best quality is my worldliness. I have a curiosity for the world and all it has to offer; a voracious appetite for knowledge and a relentless attraction to experience, novelty, understanding, beauty, and contradiction. There is more on my profile - feel free to take a look or leave our dynamic up to chance.

Chat soon,

R

Hi guys,

I'm a 27F from Montreal and I'm here in Seoul until the end of October. I'm here to do research thanks to a grant from a Canadian funding organization (I'll refrain from boring you right away, but feel free to ask if you want to know more). I've met a ton of Korean friends here, but there's a part of me that misses the ease of interactions you get from people who are on the same wavelength culturally and linguistically (no shade at all LOL).

I've posted here in the past and always got great results. Before anybody jumps to conclusions: yes, I am looking for friends, but I'm also single and not opposed to seeing where things go if we vibe. I'm half Sri Lankan myself, so maybe not "Asian" in the traditional sense of the term (I feel like most people take Asian to mean East and maybe Southeast Asian), but I tend to find myself drawn to people who have a similar cultural background. I like people who share my values - being educated, family-oriented, ambitious, wordly, etc - and I've found that men from my own community and others across Asia often meet these criteria. For reference, this means I tend to like East/Southeast/South Asian men, with the occasional Latino and Arab guy thrown into the mix lol.

I've found in my short time here that Korean guys largely don't really find me attractive, and that's understandable since I'm a far cry from the beauty standard here (pale, thin, and with "cute" features). I've had way more success with Asian men in North America - and that's fine, because there's something to be said about the level of compatibility you'll find with someone who shares a hyphenated identity. Hence the post title... But if you're Korean from Korea proper and see this post, and you wish to reach out, don't let any of what I'm saying stop you.

I'm hoping to make connections in the city, whether you're passing through or based here permanently. I love meeting up with people and talking, trying new restaurants, and checking out fun activities in new neighborhoods. Again, I am looking for friends, and anything that escalates from there will stem naturally from a foundation of friendship. If you want to jump straight to being FWBs or anything else that's romantic in nature, I kindly ask that you look elsewhere.

Hope to hear from you soon.

~ Rachel