u/badgerdd

Hi, I recently made my first post here explaining how I am new to this world and have only
experimented a few times over the last year or so.

I have read the guides and a few post from others here and making some small progress!
I have a few questions / concerns which may be a bit naive / silly, but hoping some of you
may be able to help with:

1. what actually happens to your body during a prostate orgasm? is this a natural
   thing, or are we forcing it to do something unatural that it isnt intended for?

2. After experiencing one, is there a hangover period afterwards? after depleting so
   much energy and release of endorphins or adrenaline?

3. Is this something that could become overly addictive in an unhealthy way? I see
   some here spending hours of time on this, which doesnt sound ideal to me!

4. lastly, once becoming rewired and able to achieve these type of orgasms, is that likely
   to have a negative effect on appreciating normal sex / penile orgasms? (So far the prostate stimulation has made it better, but I would worry that a prostate orgasm could become too addictive!)

Thanks

Hi, I recently posted about sandal and slipper suggestions to buy for my wife.

She is not too keen on getting new slippers and her old ones currently smell great!.

Barefoot in closed shoes is not an option.

I’ve been pretty keen on buying her some Birkenstock style sandals , as they look nice and have the fake suede which could retain some smell after time. I’ve shown her a few different types and she isn’t too keen on the style. I might be able to convince her with the right colour combo or strap type.

There are also types like the above but with an EVA synthetic footbed. I’m guessing this isn’t as breathable but won’t retain moisture as much, but could be worth a try. Maybe synthetic will be similar to how flats could smell !

Lastly, she has shown interest in crocs sandals and bought herself some sandal wedges! Yet to find out if they will smell. I might offer to buy her some similar crocs flat sandals or sliders , to wear more frequently at home.

I’m happy to try things out , but does anyone have any experience in these ? And if anything is better for producing and retaining smell?

Thanks

Hey , hope everyone is good.

So I’ve dabbled in some prostate play over the last few years. My wife has used a finger in the past but not overly keen on doing that. So I bought an Aneros helix syn which is quite small and not intimidating! (I’m not a big guy)

Used it a few times with her and on myself when she has been away, but very occasionally.

It kind of felt good at times - particularly once it gets in to begin with. I’m not sure if it hits my bladder. Originally I thought it was too short because I couldn’t feel much but after a while I’ve learned where the prostate is and that being turned on / relaxed helps.

After a while using it , I find my muscles clenching and getting bit tired. It’s also slightly painful over all. I can only handle vibrate setting on the lowest. I’ve tried persevering with it and concentrating on that area instead on my dick for a while and had some good sensations, but mostly feel nothing, then when I finish with my dick it sometimes feels different, like the prostate is being squeezed a bit during orgasm? Or that the orgasm is a little bit restricted in some way. It’s hard to describe! But I can tell I have built up a lot of fluid.

I’m not sure if I’m doing something wrong or if these things are normal when having a regular orgasm with a toy in?

I’m nervous at the idea of a purely anal orgasm , and what that might do to my body! I’m probably not going to achieve that. But whilst playing with this toy, I kinda hoped it would feel more pleasurable!

Any advice would be much appreciated.

So I recently made my first post about building the courage to tell my wife how I love the smell of her feet, and that I’d like to experience this a bit more. She received it well and is open to accommodating this a little, which is awesome.

I had made attempts in the past , before our conversation, to ask her to wear her smelly slip on shoes without socks, but it didn’t go down well! During our discussion, she explained that she’s not comfortable wearing any closed shoes without socks, like trainers and no longer wears flats, but is happy to let me smell her worn socks.

As a compromise, she is willing to wear certain slippers or open footwear without socks. She has some slippers that eventually build a little smell , but then get washed regularly.

So I want to buy her some things that may fit into this compromise category. She has mentioned she wants to get some sliders , which is fine , but I don’t love the look of them or feel they would built much smell.

My thoughts are:

Birkenstock clogs for around the house which can’t be washed , or Birkenstock open sandals , which I think she would be willing to wear without socks , but probably not often or all year round.

The next thought is similar to the above but cheaper Birkenstock off brands. Although some of these have synthetic suede insoles, which may or may not make it more difficult to build a natural smell?!

There are also fake furr lined shoe / slippers and I could try to find some that aren’t designed to be washed.

I also thought about crocs. She has a cheap pair for gardening and they don’t really smell at all, but could be worth a try with a new pair , just for comfort.

If anyone has any thoughts or other suggestions , that would be great!

Hey all, hope you are well. It’s my first time posting here but left a comment earlier on another post, which left me feeling like I should make my own post.

To sum up , I have been married and with my parter a long time. She is accepting and lets me do stuff with her feet , which is amazing, but I’m struggling to express my desire to do stuff with some smell added. They very rarely do smell at all but I have experienced a little light smell on a small amount of occasions, maybe once her slippers are worn for a couple weeks.

I’m very grateful that she accepts me but I don’t want to be pushy, as she has expressed some disgust in feeling dirty. She showers everyday as soon as she gets home or first thing in the morning at weekends after exercising, so it’s almost impossible for me to catch a moment with any smell, and won’t wear any shoes without socks, apart from flip flops or slippers that get washed regularly. I’ve not been too bothered throughout the relationship as everything else in that department, our sex life and generally compatibility is great. I feel that bringing this up could make me seem ungrateful and I don’t want to pressure her into something that makes her uncomfortable. I’ve tried asking her to wear her worn shoes shortly , before I give her a massage but she seems grossed out and said she needs to change the insoles asap. I know I need to talk to her openly but it also feels weird bringing it up out of the blue. I need to make sure I’m not being too negative or pressuring.

Obviously, I do my best to please her often too. Open to doing new things for her.

I’m feeling a bit embarrassed and ashamed, (which may partly come from previous relationships where some of my ex partners have been judgemental. I also need to work on my own self confidence.)

Any advice from people in long term relationships or marriages would be appreciated, thanks