Looking for advice on how to ask for some smell
Hey all, hope you are well. It’s my first time posting here but left a comment earlier on another post, which left me feeling like I should make my own post.
To sum up , I have been married and with my parter a long time. She is accepting and lets me do stuff with her feet , which is amazing, but I’m struggling to express my desire to do stuff with some smell added. They very rarely do smell at all but I have experienced a little light smell on a small amount of occasions, maybe once her slippers are worn for a couple weeks.
I’m very grateful that she accepts me but I don’t want to be pushy, as she has expressed some disgust in feeling dirty. She showers everyday as soon as she gets home or first thing in the morning at weekends after exercising, so it’s almost impossible for me to catch a moment with any smell, and won’t wear any shoes without socks, apart from flip flops or slippers that get washed regularly. I’ve not been too bothered throughout the relationship as everything else in that department, our sex life and generally compatibility is great. I feel that bringing this up could make me seem ungrateful and I don’t want to pressure her into something that makes her uncomfortable. I’ve tried asking her to wear her worn shoes shortly , before I give her a massage but she seems grossed out and said she needs to change the insoles asap. I know I need to talk to her openly but it also feels weird bringing it up out of the blue. I need to make sure I’m not being too negative or pressuring.
Obviously, I do my best to please her often too. Open to doing new things for her.
I’m feeling a bit embarrassed and ashamed, (which may partly come from previous relationships where some of my ex partners have been judgemental. I also need to work on my own self confidence.)
Any advice from people in long term relationships or marriages would be appreciated, thanks