u/balancedkarmaa

So I have found that I am most comfortable when I give the specific address of the session about 10 minutes prior to the appointment. I give them a location less than 5 minutes away and always communicate the process (that I'll be sending address before session) So they aren't stressing on what's going on. I do this for the privacy of other clients, my own anxiety as I really don't like feeling like somebody's waiting for me. Is this common?

New client was willing (even eager) to provide requests for screening process with ZERO push back and complete respect. He was asking many questions taking up too much time so I said "i reserve my time and energy to clients that have confirmed looking. if you wanted to discuss details, we can do so after depo is complete" and he did.

I know I am not alone when I say the najority if interested arties drag their feet through the process in so many different ways. Additionally, I tend to be very empathetic, respectful, and compassionate to the point where the dynamic between me and clients can be less effective. Im inclined to thank him for the ease of screening and tell him it's appreciated. So my question is....

Is this simply showing basic human decency & respect? Maybe I just ignore it because that's the way clients should behave? Is acknowledging & encouraging good behavior giving my power away somehow? Would giving him a reward for respecting our boundries encourage mediocrity?!

Eager to hear the conversation!

First off HAPPY MOTHERS DAY INCREDIBLE HUMAN BEINGS Im writing about an interaction with a possible client asking someone that provides massage and bodywork "let's get lunch to see if we want to work together" (clarification, I provide fbsm and guy reaches out to schedule. He doesn't send deposits (fear of being scammed) and I dont schedule without deposit (no negotiation, Im tired of all the bullshit with precious time wasted for nothing). I know you know EXACTLY what I'm saying!!

I thought the conversation was over as I was very clear. 2 hours later I get a message from him. (bulletpoints):

He makes good money

Seeks regular sessions

Will I go out to eat lunch w him tomoorow?

We can learn we aren't scamming eachother

Free meal

Discuss arrangements in person

Worse case "you get a free meal and we both walk away"

My instant reaction is "If you make good money a measly $20 deposit is worth the risk if you seek an ongoing business relationship and fuck no I'm not going on a date with you and giving you my time for free. " Anyone that doesn't listen to my answer the distance time immediately creates suspicion and I sprint the other way. As far as I see, it's about RESPECT

Am I jaded or is my reaction valid?

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?!

thank you for taking the time. you are sexy and appreciated.