background: i’m AFAB nonbinary and was on testosterone for about a year and a half, so my voice is deeper than the average cis woman’s. that’s literally the only “clocky” thing about me though, as far as i can tell. i’ve been off testosterone long enough that my body fat has redistributed back to my pre-t female body, i had a full face of makeup on and hair extensions in, i was wearing a microbikini, i’m not super flat chested, literally everything about me screamed “woman” other than my voice. the best way i can describe how i sound is that my voice generally passes as a deep female voice, and sometimes men even say it’s sexy (i’ve gotten compliments on my voice while doing phone sex and camming), but i occasionally do get called “sir” over the phone.
apparently my voice is deep enough that girls at the club got suspicious of me being a trans woman. first the manager who hired me pulled me aside and asked if i’m “fully female,” and thankfully took my word when i said yes. but later another senior coworker pulled me into the bathroom and asked to see my pussy to prove i’m not trans :’) and i did it because i felt like i had no choice. feels kinda like sexual assault or coercion at the very least but i don’t have a therapist to process that with right now LMAO.
i’m not offended by people assuming i’m a trans woman. i’m sad and angry that we live in such a transphobic world that this happened to me, and that the only protection i had in that moment was the fact that i could actually prove i wasn’t a trans woman, and that my trans sisters don’t have that safety if they get clocked. and yet cis people have the audacity to call us the sexual deviants and predators just for existing.
side note: i fell and ate shit in my heels front of the hiring manager on my way to the stage to audition then lost a nail mid audition (still got the job tho???). then got kinda tipsy and was so unstable in my heels that one of the other strippers made me change out of them into my normal boots. also only made $4. planning on going in tonight and praying it goes better 😁