u/barresculpt

I feel like Tryst isn't showing my profile unless I post touring dates. Even in my own home city. I literally have to list that I'm "touring" there just to be visible. And yes, I'm paying for their so-called Premium+ membership.

Has anyone else noticed this too?

I also feel like I have to post that I'm touring at a specific location a few days before I'm actually there, just so I reach the intended audience. Otherwise, I hear absolutely nothing until I'm officially in town.

I'm thinking about no longer offering BJ or BBBJ. Ever since that incident I posted about a few weeks ago, I've been truly turned off. I simply don't enjoy it like I used to.

But it feels like most clients expect it. Especially at the over $1k price point. If you don't offer it, or if you stopped offering it at some point, how has this affected you? Did you lose a lot of clients? Did you have to adjust your rates or marketing? Or did you find that the ones who stayed were actually better quality?

Just lost another client because he caught feelings. his words, not mine.

This happens a few times a year. At first, it was flattering. Now? It's straight-up annoying.

The dynamic we agreed on was crystal clear. My boundaries aren't hidden …. they're practically billboard-sized. Yet somehow, somewhere along the way, they start pushing for something entirely different. Something more. Something personal.

And when I hold the line? Suddenly I'm the cold one

Is it actually "feelings" or is it entitlement dressed up in romantic language? Because real feelings respect boundaries. This feels more like they're upset they can't have you the way they want or are we, as providers, subtly rewarding this behavior without realizing it?

i've been seeing a lot of posts about european rates lately, and the timing couldn't be more relevant. i've never worked the european market before, but i'll be summering there shortly and have been seriously considering it.

from what i've gathered, the market does seem considerably lower than what i'm used to. i've done some research and noticed that while there are rates over €1k, that's typically for two hours. for context, i don't do anything for less than $2k for two hours in my current market.

i'm wondering if it would be reasonable to price €900 for one hour? i'm specifically looking at the italian market and monaco. has anyone worked these regions and can speak to whether that rate is feasible, or am i setting myself up for disappointment? would love honest insight from those with european experience.

recently saw a regular client who is, by all accounts, wonderfully kind and perfectly lovely to spend time with. But this last visit, he hadn't shaved, and I found myself noticing several white hairs in his pubic area. For some reason, it hit me in a way I wasn't prepared for. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since.

It's not that there's anything wrong with aging or natural bodies …. logically, I know that. But something about the visual has left me with a persistent, visceral sense of repulsion that I just can't talk myself out of. I don't recall ever noticing this on a client before now, and to be honest, I don't think I can continue seeing him.

has anyone else ever been completely turned off by something so seemingly trivial? not a safety issue or a boundary violation, just a… physical detail that gave you an unshakable ick? How did you handle it?

I have clients who always try to push the envelope, but recently there’s been an influx of them trying to rub it bare against me. What do you say or ask when it happens? Looking for firm but professional scripts or boundary setting tips. I think i need to have a better way of addressing it now