u/boogabooya

One of my gay friends recently broke down and started yapping about how he has been putting himself out there for many years without being able to find a partner. He complained about how he felt pressured to get fit, join gay sports clubs, flirt with guys for years to no avail. I was just sitting there and listening to him as a pretty average dude who hardly gets a few hookups a year and trying to understand his struggle and I couldn’t! Lol

Obviously there’s nothing you can do about it and you have to accept it and move on, but it’s really humbling. It makes me feel so ugly lol.

I was really into this man I met last year on a night out with friends. He was incredibly charming and sexy. We hooked up, exchanged contacts and texted for weeks. I was desperately asking him on dates every week to which he was giving random excuses. I think after a month or so, I asked if he could give me closure on whether he was at all interested in seeing me again, to which he answered “honestly no”. It hurt, but that’s life and I moved on quickly. Looking back, I do feel embarrassed that I was into him that badly. Recently I discovered that my friend met him around the same he rejected me. Their relationship became official this week and he shared a selfie with him. We’re supposed to hang out this weekend.