Want to have fun in saunas but I got a hard time getting in the mood
Hello,
I'm a 43year old french guy. I've lost 15kg over two years and am now fairly average but I still have insecurities. I'm also vision impaired, not blind but wear glasses.
I tried three different saunas (1 in Bruxelles, and 2 in Paris), and I've yet to have sexual encounters there.
I really want to have worry free fun, as I know friends who does. But I have a hard time getting action. If I wear my glasses I feel like guys won't even look at me, if I don't wear them, I can't even see the guys faces until I'm so close we are basically already kissing, so I don't know if somebody is looking at me or interested in me. I'm in fear to overstep or do non consensual things on guys because I could have misunderstood something. And with all this overthinking I'm not really excited I think.
Last time I had a little victory, as at the start I began to feel some confidence, got in the sauna (which was sufficiently illuminated) without my glasses, and a few minutes later a guy sat close, we made eye contact and began to talk and kiss but he only wanted to cuddle and talk. And when I said myself I'll go participate in the action in the hammam then, I couldn't... I couldn't saw faces and stress got me.
I would love it to be simple and just have fun.