I am incredibly sad and anxious about the very distant future, anyone have advice to help cope?
I (22f) cannot possibly be more head over heels in love with my husband (39m) and we have happily been together for 4 years. But lately it’s really hitting me that the 17 year gap means I will have to spent a good two decades, if not more, without him by my side. I know lost couples probably consider who will go first after a long, decades long marriage, and I’m incredibly sad that I will probably only get 30, 35 years with my man, which does not feel like long enough, and I don’t even have the comfort of telling myself once he passes, I won’t be far behind him, because I will be in my 50s/60s most likely. I never thought I’d be so upset at the idea of myself getting to live into my 70s and 80s.
We already have one child together, and have been trying for another, so I know I won’t be completely without my family that we have created, and I’ll always be able to see him in our daughter as she is his TWIN. But it still isn’t the same as growing old with each other.
Any advice on how to cope with this anxiety?