9 year cold streak - fundamentally changed
Hello, not sure where this will go but I feel like this is more common than most people admit.
I lost my virginity at 18 to my hs girlfriend. Dated her and one other girl seriously had a few flings post college. Ended up quitting my job and moving states. Long story short lost touch with my fwb in 2017 after the move. Also last time I had sex.
It is now 2026. I have a good job. Own my own car and home. I’ve tried every dating app I can think of. I’ve tried dating coworkers, I’ve tried going to bars, trivia, workout classes, ran marathons, etc. Simply cannot find anyone. I’m not that old yet, in good shape, not unattractive. But the women just simply don’t seem to be around.
What happened? I certainly didn’t lose my libido. But at this point I feel like a different species. My sexual frustration is at an all time high. I feel so angry that a huge chunk of my life has been wasted. I checked every box and did everything “right” but I’m completely alone. I don’t understand.
I’ve gone to therapy for this. I’ve tried not caring and just doing my own thing but I see so many of my friends having children and I’m just left behind. I know that many marriages are not happy and I also know that children don’t solve dysfunction but I can’t help but wonder if my life is just locked in as single dude that feels forever horny (and more than that) without a companion. Life is getting more lonely as I age and don’t have someone to share myself with.
Is this an economy thing? Is this a product of Trumps America and just the shit online that people spew constantly. Is dating just dead?
Sorry if this came off more as a rant I’m just really stumped.