[Discussion] My ex wants to be friends, but I want to serve her. Is there a bridge between vanilla and femdom?
Hi all, I'd like to share a situation I'm in and hear your thoughts, especially from the Dommes here.
My ex-girlfriend and I have a complex history. She's always been the one in control, even putting me in the "friend zone" before we ever dated. Now that we've broken up, she's insistent on being good friends.
For my part, my feelings have evolved. I don't want friendship; I feel a strong pull to serve her. The idea of her dominating or humiliating me is what I truly want.
The challenge is her self-image. I labelled her "vanilla," but her actions tell a different story. She has this powerful "lioness" energy, she gets annoyed when I'm not independent enough, yet she once told me she's attracted to men who let women "exploit their feminine side." It feels like she's describing the exact dynamic I crave, but she doesn't have the framework (D/s, femdom) to see it that way.
Has anyone here ever successfully transitioned a relationship like this? Can a "vanilla" woman with dominant tendencies be guided into a more formal D/s dynamic with an ex who is eager to submit? Or am I just projecting my own desires onto something that isn't there?