How do you bring out a shy top’s dominant side without feeling cringe?
So I’m seeing this bi guy right now and he’s honestly adorable but also painfully introverted. Like… shy top energy to the MAX.
I was basically his first guy experience about 2 months ago, so I kinda took his gay virginity lol. He’s still figuring things out and lacks experience overall, but let’s just say the man has… a lot of potential in certain departments 😵💫
The thing is, outside the bedroom I’m pretty masc-presenting and confident, but when I bottom I turn embarrassingly submissive. Like my brain fully melts. I WANT to talk dirty to him, be more vocal, flirt during sex, make him feel confident/dominant etc — but I genuinely don’t know how to do it without cringing at myself.
And because he’s shy too, we both end up in this weird quiet tension where the chemistry is insane but neither of us fully takes control of it??
Anyone else date a shy/introverted top before? How did you get more comfortable talking dirty or bringing out his dominant side without making it feel forced?