Looking for advice on sexless marriage.
Ive been married for 14 years. With my wife for 20. Before marriage we had sex frequently and loved it anywhere anytime. After marriage it just shut off. We had kids a year later and her sex drive just disappeared. Was about once a month, once every 3 weeks at best. We had a incident where she went camping with friends and almost slept with a guy(she let him feel her up but then stopped out of guilt. She had a fee drinks). She didnt tell me for a month and brought it up in a manipulative way. Started saying how shes ok with me looking at others and eventually even acting on those desires as long as i didnt pet her know, later she asked what i was comfortable with and she got really specific which made me ask where it was coming from. Eventually she told me and kinda broke down in fear. I was hurt at first. Months later i couldnt finish unless i imagined another guy pleasing her. We had open conversations about desires and fantasies and even watched porn together and sent eachother videos we liked. We role played using friends names and for 3-4 months i was in heaven having sex any time i was horny. After that time her sex drive died and were back to once a month for the last 2 years. Ive tried asking whats wrong, what changed, how can we get back to that? Nothing works and almost always turns into an argument that all i want is sex. Whats your advice to bring back that passion?