[Update/edit: I told myself I’d leave this post up 24 hours, and I will, but at this point it’s more to leave you with some insight into this sub.
There is absolutely no reason I should be receiving over a 100 replies from this ad 12 hours after posting, but here we are. Am I happy about that? No. Frankly, 95% of replies are purely disappointing and discouraging. The other 5% are ok, but I’m for sure not feeling the urge to jump on anyone’s dick.
Last night when I was drifting off, I was thinking this sub has changed. Maybe AI has already rotted society more than I thought. I’m wrong though. It’s always been this way for women posting. You have to have immense motivation to sift through tons of garbage. And then be accommodating and patient enough to see if the little bit found that gives you hope will in fact meet your desires. I had this once. There was a time I posted a few lines looking for a fling in LAr4r and waded through 700+ replies I got in one day to find a gem of a man. Last year I posted a similar ad to this one here, and within a weekend had found an absolute sweetheart. The difference is I changed. I can’t tolerate this way of doing things anymore. Women deserve so much better than this process, even cheaters.
You all as a collective are driving the small pool of real women on this sub away. I get it, I changed, the sub is still the same for women. But I don’t think you can argue my change is for the worse.
My strongest recommendation to you all: write your own ads, and put the level of effort I put into mine on them.]
Listen gentlemen. I am head-in-the-clouds dreamy, a hopeful romantic, and a passionate soul. But I also love my life, I have a content marriage, and I have no plans to blow things up, so I’m setting up what is to be an amazing compartmentalized romance. It’s a lofty goal, yes, but I thrive on meeting challenges.
This is a long ad, and if it overwhelms you, or if you get tired of reading, that’s ok. My intention is to sort out the misfits before the end of my post.
All I need is one man that feels like I’ve written this for him. If that’s you, I’m eager to read your response.
Let’s break this down in an organized fashion, shall we?
- Connect-the-dots
I'm seeking a compartmentalized romance, which you can translate as a romance that can easily exist in the confines of our comfortable lives. I want to know you, and I want you to be curious about me. I’m highly emotionally attuned and also accountable, and I expect you to be too. I am affectionate, supportive, caring, and feeling those things back is important. I don’t fall in love with an affair partner, but I can have a lot of love for them.
For this type of “island romance” to exist, we need to have the same situation: you’re in a content/happy enough marriage with a dead bedroom, and have no plans of leaving your marriage.
- Let’s talk about sex
A lover is not a lover without fantastic sex. If you know how to fuck a woman well, that's a first step. The second is your dick game is STRONG (literally and figuratively).
Note: if you have a strong kink game, BDSM tendencies, or go beyond mild roughness, please leave now cause I ain’t having none of that.
I am a highly sensual lover who embraces unguarded, passionate sex. I want someone that is a superb kisser, that finds touching and caressing irresistible, and enjoys playful and clever banter,
I do all this spectacularly well and you should too.
- I swoon for hot, nerdy men
Physically, I do gravitate towards slim to medium builds. A lanky man with a slightly soft stomach is my idea of heaven. I am more into nerdy handsome fellows with glasses over tatted up guys with beards. I have a curvy/thick body and have dark hair and eyes. I am not slim, so if slim is your preference this isn't it. I’m Latina, and I do have an amazing ass, but don’t think I can’t spot White men who fetishize Latina women a mile away. That said, I am attracted to White men. I like things I don’t have, like pale skin, freckles, and height too (I am quite short!). I would put myself in the very pretty/cute category over hot one.
As for ages. I am in my mid-40s and seeking someone around my age or slightly older (42-52).
- You get to my pussy through my brain
I LOVE, love a man that can teach me things. If you consider yourself to be a little nerdy and are into the sciences or the arts, I am all ears. Intelligence and the ability to talk about what you know is extremely important to me. I don't want to fuck a lackluster, dull dick. I'm fairly intelligent, some say clever and witty, and I want to meet a man who relishes in critical thinking, problem solving, and using his dry sense of humor to make me laugh. Oh, and this probably doesn't need to be said, but I'm not into conservative men that are living their best life under this administration.
- How will we fuck?
Last but not least logistics are critical. I've met too many men who are “prison ready”. They are locked-down at home because they don't have reasons to be out of the house when their wives are there beyond work (if that). Or they are just ultra busy with work, caregiving, and homelife. You need to have freedom to have an affair outside an extended lunch hour. I want to see you outside a hotel on occasion. Speaking of, you shouldn’t have a problem booking a room or making date plans.
I like planning meets with a week notice, and I would like to meet once (maybe twice) a month for 3-4 hours each time. I don't think this is asking for anything extravagant, so if you are wondering if you can pull this off, I'm not for you. I have a great career that gives me flexibility, as well as extracurriculars that allow me to be independent enough to be able to meet any day from mid-morning into early evening. Location-wise, please be somewhere in LA or OC (Westside, SouthBay, Long Beach, north or central OC, and SGV would be particularly good places to be around). I'm NOT at all interested in non-locals.
This is long. If you read this far, thank you. You have some perseverance. Clearly I like to write. I indulge in a lot of things in life. Savor yours.